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How Divorce Affects Your Children

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

Recently I spoke with a woman whose coaching practice revolves around the issue of children and divorce. She had many useful strategies for dealing with this challenge but what it all seemed to come down ...

Divorce: Don’t ask Why?

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

In life, I have come to accept the fact that there are questions of mine that will never be answered to my satisfaction if at all. I have come to accept the fact that some ...

Was Your Divorce a Means to Healing Old Baggage?

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

Here’s a fascinating take on divorce that I find more true than not: We choose our spouses, usually subconsciously, as a means to healing old emotional wounds we have been carrying around our entire life. ...

Divorce – Pain and Rebirth

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

Those of us who have gone through a divorce understand all too well the pain and grief we experience. We have lost our spouse, who we thought was our life partner, a loss similar to ...

Recovering from Divorce: Honoring the Truth

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

Do you remember the old adage that states there’s your side, there’s my side and then there’s the truth? If we were totally honest with ourselves, we too could see the truth of any situation. ...

Our Children’s Future: Ensuring their Happiness and Success

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

We worry about our kids: their well-being and happy future are our main concerns in life. We long for them to be content and successful at whatever they choose to do. We hope that we’ll ...

The Good Life

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

I was listening to MSNBC on the radio the other day when a feature came on entitled, ‘The Good Life.’ They proceeded to discuss a $14,000 dessert being offered in Sri Lanka that included, amongst ...

Divorce Recovery: Beware Expectations

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

In a nutshell, expectations are premeditated resentments and disappointments. They are self-sabotaging beliefs we hold that literally set us up to feel bad and keep us stuck in the pain of our divorce. They are ...

Victimhood: The Curse of Divorce Recovery

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

Feeling or labeling yourself a victim of your divorce is one of the most disastrous moves you can make. It will prevent you from moving forward into a new life. Victimhood renders you powerless. To ...

Divorce Recovery: Are Your Fears Holding You Back?

By Shelley Stile · 14 years ago

Divorce turns our lives upside down. It throws us into a major life transition that is colored by intense feelings and emotions that can be debilitating. I believe that fear is the main culprit that ...