Have you ever had this experience? You finally found the nerve

to ask that "special girl" out on a date to dinner and a movie.

Without even hesitating she gave you a nervous "yes!". Perhaps

you even talked further on the phone and felt that you two

clicked well. The date was planned and finally comes Saturday

night. You are all decked out in your best shirt, nice shoes,

with money to spend, and waiting at the agreed restaurant

meeting place.

About 30 minutes goes by and your thinking "Ok, no problem,

she's just late". So you ask the bartender for another drink

and you wait some more. Now an hour has gone by and you are

beginning to worry so you call her cell phone, nothing. You

call her house, nothing. You call her pager, nothing.

And then you realize in the pit of your stomach that you were

just stood up. She is a "no show" and you had no idea that this

was going to happen. What do you do next? Well if you get angry

at situations like this and blow your top then please read the

following tips that can help you retain your composure.

1. You need to understand that she has a right to abandon the

date. You do not own her nor should you have had any

expectations. Yes I realize that it was extremely rude but

still yet, you should not take rejection personally.

2. Be honest with yourself in realizing that your anger over

this rejection is related to your need for gratification from

another person, which is wrong. Be confident that you can move

on, do better, and find someone less flaky.

3. Instead of getting all bent out of shape and spending the

night mad, use the experience as a spring board to have a good

time that same night. And, do not call her back to argue or

leave hateful messages. Let it go. You are above such actions.