Would you love to be able to learn from your emotions in a powerful way and create more happiness in your life? Painful unhealed negative emotions can keep us from being successful because they “get in the way” of moving forward to creating a successful life. These eight steps and the process lets you fully feel and learn from the emotion as quickly as possible. Then you can move on and learn from each experience. However, it is important to commit to the process of healing these emotions and be willing to “let them go”. You MUST make this decision about wanting to heal yourself. I know that using these steps has helped me so much in my life throughout my painful experiences. It would helpful to write down all of your answers and journal as you work through these exercises. It is important that you remember the following fact: Everything is about the perception and interpretation we give to a feeling, a person, or a situation; and WE have the power to change our interpretation and use an interpretation that will “serve us”!

1. Accept full responsibility for the emotion. Even if you don't fully believe it right now--tell yourself, "I Create My Reality, and I am Creating this Emotion Right Now". Usually, people never get beyond step one because they actually believe that outer circumstances are causing their emotions. It is critical that you take total complete responsibility for creating your feelings.

2. Name the emotion. Giving the emotion a name increases your clarity, awareness, and consciousness. Don't just say you feel sad, bad, or mad. Expand your emotional knowledge until you can positively identify the feelings of violation, disappointment, anxiety, shame, embarrassment, and many more.

3. LET GO of “THE STORY”. The story is whatever it is outside yourself that you think caused the emotion. Literally "see" the story being cut off from your emotion and fading away. Let go of the story but keep the emotion that you created and which now has a name.

4. Bless the emotion. Blessing the emotion means not judging it as good or bad. Accept the emotion in a spirit of gratitude and learning. This is necessary in order to do the next step properly. Be thankful that you were allowed the privilege of experiencing this emotion for your inner growth to more transformation.

5. Feel the emotion. With no judging or resistance; simply, feel the emotion. Notice where you feel the emotion physically in your body. Raise your consciousness as you become a "witness", a kind of observer of your own processes. “What you resist persists” and allowing the emotion in this way is the very opposite of resistance.

6. Ask for clarity. In a spirit of learning and willingness to grow, ask for insight as to the reason for the emotion. Don't go back to the story. The "cause" of the emotion is you and nothing outside yourself. Ask, "What do I need to learn from this emotion." Also ask, "What ineffective belief do I own that created this emotion."

7. Identify the belief. Create a space for the answer to come and it will come. At the root of nearly every painful emotion is an ineffective belief. For example: You may believe that you must make everyone happy. You may believe you can't be loved if you are not perfect. You may believe that you are simply not worth it.

8. Replace the belief. Once you have identified the belief choose to replace it with a more effective belief. Literally say to yourself, "I now CHOOSE to reject this (ineffective belief) and adopt this (empowering belief) in its place".

Summary: You will find that during the last four steps of the process, something magical has happened! The painful emotion is gone and is completely transformed into something else. The reason for this magic is the clarity and increase in consciousness. Normally, people resist their painful emotions with intense energy, which only keeps them festering and in pain for hours, days, weeks, months, and even years! By allowing yourself to feel in a spirit of openness and acceptance you can learn your lessons quickly. A fantastic side benefit is that you now have a powerful new belief in place! You can grow more in a few weeks than you have in the past years by practicing this process diligently.