Everyone knows we are experiencing an energy crisis. You'd have to have your head in the sand to miss all the news about what we need to do to save our resources for our children, and our grandchildren. I absolutely agree that we need to conserve for the sake of our planet. However, I want to talk about a more personal kind of energy crisis, for a different (but no less pressing) cause.

What are we doing about our emotional and psychological resources? The time and energy we waste wondering: am I eating the right foods? Am I doing the right exercises? Do I exercise enough? Am I managing to look the way the magazines tell me I'm supposed to?

My cousin once told me at her work the employees discuss their diets and their bodies on a regular basis. They will sit at meals, talk about the foods they have brought, and the reasons they should be eating something else. They talk about how they wish they could fit into their old clothes, and how they don't like the way their bodies look. This struck me as so very sad, and all I could think was, "What a waste of energy!"

Why do people do this to themselves? I'm afraid we are caught up in a vicious cycle. We are caught in thinking about the way we are "supposed to look, supposed to eat" - and when we possibly deviate from a given, we have committed a sin, and there is no going back. What is it in our nature that forbids us to allow ourselves to simply do the best we can with the resources we have, including time to cook, to buy food, to be active, and most importantly, to accept ourselves?

How come it is so much easier to condemn ourselves for what we haven't done, rather than commend ourselves on what we have managed to achieve in a society where we are constantly feeling rushed, rushed, rushed? Why are we unable to congratulate ourselves for the ten-minute walk we fit in during break instead of criticizing ourselves for not jogging for 45 minutes?

I don't know the answer to this yet, but I do like to imagine what could be done with the time and energy saved on not being critical of ourselves.

One way we can conserve our emotional and psychological energy is to learn to be at peace with food. You need to learn about yourself and why you have the relationship you do with the food you eat. Once you are able to do this, you will not need to waste time wondering about your food choices, or your exercise activities, or the way you are "supposed to" be.

Imagine if you discussed with your friends and colleagues life, politics (okay, everyone isn't like me and won't do that), travel, good restaurants, and books. Think of the lively discussions about the latest Harry Potter (spoiler alert!). Didn't you just know that Snape was a good guy all along?

Think of all the things you would learn about yourself and your friends if you just weren't wasting energy.