"I'm fit not fat". This is a slogan many women need to remember. Being thin has become a fashion statement. From the rich to the poor, every man and woman these days aim to be in good shape. But are you getting obsessed with it? Are you on a track to starving yourself? Or the societal norms have pressurized you to loose weight before you can find a suitable match ?

It came as a pinch of pain when Suzanne reported "I was shocked to hear that my maid's daughter had been rejected by more than 8 guys as she is little chubby. She is having tough times in finding a relationship."

Though a general health awareness is required, but it is suggested by experts that one should not go overboard. If one is healthy, active and free of any ailments or symptoms of any diseases, then being overweight by few pounds doesn't matter much. If you are really worried of your looks, then don't forget that you can always wear a clothing that will make you look slimmer. Ask or consult a fashion expert.

Now, you can go on to join any weight loss or fitness program but there is no need to be obsessed or overwhelmed with it. Start out slow, maybe just shooting for 1 or 2 workouts a week. Once you have successfully added that to your normal routine, then attempt to slowly add to your fitness program. Plus, most women don't need to exercise more than 3-4 times a week. That doesn't mean you can't exercise more; it's just not necessary. Also, attempting to do too much too fast is worse than doing nothing at all! You may begin feeling that exercise is too hard and its just not for you. So, if you think of joining a weight loss program try to keep things moderate in the beginning. Also educate yourself on how to exercise correctly.

We need to realize that every woman cannot and need not have a perfect 'model like' figure. And there are much better goals in life to aim for. Don't try to compare yourself with others. Some women are genetically thin with a higher Basal Metabolic Rate. Now, being healthier and trying to be healthy is always an important thing in life but weight is not the only parameter to judge your health and fitness.

Mr Smith working in a fitness center faces a lot of problems, "Almost every day girls come in to join one of our several weight loss packages whereas they have normal B.M.I. [ Body Mass Index ]. Even parents are keen to get their teenagers to join our programs. They demand a good shape at any cost. But I feel by the look of face of those girls they are either stressed or depressed."

In fact , in modern world mothers don't want their daughters to lag behind in terms of the looks even though their daughters don't want to become models. We as parents should learn to appreciate our daughters as they are and give them the confidence that they don't need to look beautiful to prove themselves.

It's high time that we change the parameters of judging women. Next time someone comments, lash back in confidence 'I AM FIT NOT FAT'.