There is an old saying, "Perception is reality." If you wish to be perceived as a leader you must act like one by never saying these 3 things:

1. "They didn’t get back to me."

Expecting someone to get back with you stops the action. Sometimes, when you’re counting on someone else’s help and they don’t respond in a timely manner, you’ll be faced with a status question for which you may not have a ready answer. That’s understandable. A leader would take the initiative with this better response: "I will check on that today and contact you before the end of the day with the current status."

This response is direct, positive and definite? Why? Because it says you will "CHECK" on it "TODAY." When do you expect an answer? How about "BEFORE THE END OF THE DAY" (even if it’s not the final answer, but just an updated status). That response will get you the most respect, especially by a superior in a position to evaluate you as a leader.

Important: Avoid the wishy-washy type response of: "I’ll look into it and get back to you." That may sound the same, but it’s far from it. Here’s why: "I’ll look into it" comes across as, "When I get a chance I’ll give it a cursory glance." What does "…get back to you" actually mean? Next week, next month? You’ll never be perceived as a leader by responding that way.

2. "I didn’t have time."

Equally as bad is, "I was too busy!" No one likes to feel they are second class and not taken seriously enough to be a priority. The best way to gain the confidence of others, up and down the line, and create an atmosphere of satisfaction and cooperation is to make them feel important, no matter who they are or what the issue.

A leader would say, "I was working on another situation that came in ahead of you which took a little longer than expected. It’s finally resolved. Now you’re my priority and I’m going to work with you to resolve your situation and stick to it the same way." Then do it!

3. "I thought someone else was taking care of that."

Ideally, you should never put yourself in that position. Excuses indicate a roadblock to action. Always ask questions to keep things moving. Determine exactly where you are in the situation and go forward from there. Take control. Know what’s happening at all times and respond like a confident leader.

If you wish to be perceived as a good leader then you must understand that how you say something is just as important as what you say. That’s what will set you apart. It’s that recognition that will help propel you ahead a lot faster than many others not so well informed.