The history of a lifestyle

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  • Author Paul Cantrell
  • Published February 22, 2007
  • Word count 725

Historically, it has not been uncommon to find societies that have

advocated having a lifestyle with multiple sexual partners. Furthermore

both royalty and nobility in many cultures had consorts and concubines.

Ancient Rome has been notable (if not infamous) for its enthusiastic

acceptance of orgies and alternative sexual practices. However, though

contemporary swingers celebrate those ideals, the actual practice of

swinging in the 20th century began differently.

According to Terry Gould's The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of

Swingers, swinging began among U.S. Air Force pilots and their wives

during World War II. In this small community, the mortality rate among

pilots was significantly high. Gould reports that a close bond between

pilots arose, with the implication that the husbands would protect and

care for all the wives as their own, both emotionally and sexually, if

the husbands were away or lost.

This historical narrative is debatable, however, since it would have

been highly unusual for servicemen's wives to accompany them on any

foreign tours of duty. Other sources point to American Air Force pilots

stationed in the California desert as the original participants in modern

swinging. Though the exact beginnings are not agreed upon, it is widely

assumed that swinging began amongst American military communities in

the 1950s.

By the time the Korean War ended, these groups had spread from the

bases to the nearby suburbs. The media picked up on them in 1957 and

promptly dubbed the phenomenon "wife-swapping."

It wasn't until the 1960s in Berkeley, California that the first

organization, "Sexual Freedom League", for swingers was opened. Ultimately,

an umbrella organization called the North American Swing Club

Association (NASCA) (now NASCA International) was formed to encourage accurate

information about swinging lifestyles all across America.

Some subjective scientific research into swinging has been conducted in

the USA since the late 1960s. The most recent study, based on an

Internet questionnaire addressed to visitors of lifestyle-related sites,

found swingers are happier in their relationships than the norm.

60% Of swingers said that swinging improved their relationship and only

1.7% said it made their relationship less happy. Half of those who

rated their relationship very happy before becoming swingers maintained it

had become even happier.

90% Of those with less happy relationships said swinging improved them.

Almost 70% of swingers claimed no problem with controlling jealousy,

around a quarter admitted "I have difficulty controlling jealousy when

swinging" to be somewhat true but only 6% said this was "Yes, Very Much"

true.

Swingers rate themselves happier (59% against 32% very happy) and their

lives much more exciting (76% against 54% exciting) than does the rest

of the population, by surprisingly large margins.

There was no difference between the responses of men and women,

although more males (70%) than females completed the survey.

This study, while enlightening, is of limited accuracy of the swinging

population as a whole, due to its self-selected sampling technique.

Internet-based sampling procedures create a substantial potential for

bias. It is likely that those swinging couples who had stronger

relationships were more motivated to complete the questionnaire. Alternatively,

the stress that swinging may place on a marriage means that only those

with higher than average levels of commitment to their partners are able

to remain married whilst swinging. Couples that have jealousy or strife

issues caused by swinging will not usually stay in the swinging

lifestyle and thus would have been unlikely to respond.

ABC News reporter John Stossel produced an investigative report into

the lifestyle. Stossel reported that over 4 million people are swingers,

according to estimates by the Kinsey Institute and other researchers.

He also cited Terry Gould's research, in which Gould concluded that

"couples swing in order to not cheat on their partners." When Stossel asked

swinging couples whether they worry that their spouse will "find they

like someone else better", one male interviewee replied, "People in the

swinging community swing for a reason. They don't swing to go out and

find a new wife;" while a woman interviewee asserted, "It makes women

more confident -- that they are the ones in charge." Stossel interviewed

12 marriage counselors about the lifestyle. According to Stossel, "not

one of them said don't do it", though some also said "getting sexual

thrills outside of marriage can threaten a marriage". Nevertheless, the

swingers whom Stossel interviewed claimed that "their marriages are

stronger because they don't have affairs and they don't lie to each other.

Written by Paul C, owner of [http://ww.playfulswingers.com ](http://ww.playfulswingers.com/) and a practicing swingers for about 15 years.

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Jack
Jack · 16 years ago
"Their marriages are stronger because they don't have affairs and they don't lie to each other." Are you really think that way? Maybe you are a member of swinger club and your family welcomes swinging life, but real good family base on sexual restraint.

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