You must in fact think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things used to be and how they will be now. Try to be as balanced as you can. You might make your mind up that the break-up in fact isn't an awful idea.

If you come to a decision to try to "Get my ex back", the first step is to say sorry. You might think you've done this. You might have said you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing solely to stop a breakup, he or she might not think the regret was genuine.

If you were the one who did something that you need to apologize for, apologize yet again. Now they might think the request for forgiveness is genuine, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won't be saying it simply to revive it but they will think that you in truth mean it.

Now if the situation is reversed and your ex needs to apologize for something he or she did, than try to get a honest regret from them, accept the apology from them. You may on no account forget, particularly if your separation was because of unfaithful relationship, but you should learn to forgive. Forgiving is much more difficult for some of us than simply saying, "I forgive you" though, therefore you might want to read a book or two on forgiveness and how to truly mean it. If you want to "Get my ex back", this step will assist you do it. And it can help prevent troubles in the future, too.

If you do make it and you "Get my ex back" 3 or 6 or 9 months into the lately restored relationship, old issues might possibly turn up. If you haven't forgiven the person for whatsoever was done to end the relationship, then you might have a difficult time getting past everything. Old scars would be reopened and it's to be expected that inappropriate things would be said.

But if you can really forgive the person, then there won't be any need to repeat the past. While you're working on forgiving him or her for whatever happened to cause the splitting up, accept the apology from them for the break up itself and you'll save yourself lots of pain down the road.

Also, to "Get my ex back", show the person the "you" they fell in love with, not the "you" that has been dumped. They were In the relationship for the reason that you have particular qualities - kindness, thoughtfulness - not because you're mad, jealous or upset. While you might not be able to bury the hurt, concentrate on being the best "you" you can probably be and you may "Get my ex back" by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.