Did you just recently come out of a relationship and wondering if there's still hope to get an ex back? If you are, you're not the only one who is going through this experience. Most people will go through or had gone through a break up, and most have survived by simply learning to move on. But if you feel that you want to find ways on how to get an ex back, well, there's nothing wrong with trying. In reality, this is not really that impossible to do, as long as you know the necessary steps to win your ex back.

First, look back and find out what really caused the break up. Were you too possessive, too much of the jealous type? Did you smother your ex too much that there was no more room left to breathe? On the other hand, maybe you did not give enough loving and your ex felt neglected. Sure, you can no longer bring back the past, but you can look back and learn from past mistakes.

Break ups can be caused by one specific event, or it may be the accumulation of bad behaviors that you had shown your ex which simply became too unbearable. Getting an ex back takes a lot of self assessment and honesty. Without admitting your mistakes, your ex will not feel secured that past shortcomings will not happen again. So if you plan to work on your relationship to make it last longer, the first thing you need to do is to look back at the relationship, and see where you can make some improvements.

Second, try not to come off as too needy, too desperate to hear his or her voice again. This may not be that easy and like others trying to get an ex back, you will be tempted to call, send text and email messages. It's just natural to go through a "weaning" period, where you may constantly have to stop yourself from showing your need to get back with your ex.

Instead of appearing too needy, do things that you enjoy and work on your self-esteem. Let your ex see that you are not totally lost after the break up, and that you will survive. Your ex will start seeing the changes in you, and will also wonder if the relationship is worth another try. That will surely make getting back together with your ex easier.

Third, never even try to make your ex jealous. Nobody wins in this situation, because by making your ex jealous, he or she will most probably surmise that you had already moved on, and it's time he or she does the same. That's not good for you either, if you want to get back with your ex.

So show that you're okay with the break up, but not too okay that you'll start dating someone else too soon. You will only either infuriate your ex or will make him or her see that the relationship has really ended. If you want to get back with an ex, exercise some balance, work on your self esteem, give yourself some alone time and when you're ready, start sending fillers to your ex that you are willing to give the relationship another try.