Let’s face it. There are more of us who need advice with dating women than those of us who don’t. These points, some of them might seem quite obvious, and you’ll curse me for telling you ‘something you already know’… yeah right, so why are you reading this? Ha!

Some of these might seem wack, crazy. Like something you’re really not comfortable with doing. Well, if you keep doing what you’ve always been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten. Enough said, yes?

1. Stop being such a nice guy.

We mistakenly think that the more ‘nice’ we are with women, the more they will like us. This may make sense mathematically, but it does not work!!! Being nice to them just because you want something from them is the phoniest thing you can do and you will fail. What you need to do is display yourself genuinely. Do not try to be nice!!! More on this later.

2. Never compliment a beautiful girl on her looks.

A beautiful woman gets complimented on her looks all the time… everyday. Have you ever browsed a beautiful woman’s photo section on Facebook (or is that just me)? Have you read the comments? You really do not want to be one of those weird guys writing about how sexy she is. You shouldn’t praise a woman without having her earning it first. If you really need to, rather compliment her on her femininity; tell her that you like the fact that she seems to be the leader of her group of friends. But I would advise, avoid complimenting her until she’s complimented you first. You need to make her work for your attention.

3. Do not offer to buy her a drink!!!

Really, give this one a miss. As I said above, you really do not want to invest in a woman who is not invested in you. Imagine this situation: a woman you’re not attracted to offers to buy you a drink. Is this going to make you like her more? Nope. Chances are she’ll be in a worse position – with you respecting her even less. Now I’m not saying, never, ever buy a girl a drink, let her get the first round and then you can get the second if drinks are on the bill. My point really, is that you need to…

4. Get her invested in you, first.

We value things more if we’ve worked for it. This is a fact, and when women notice that they’re getting away with free drinks every time they go clubbing, they are not going stop accepting drinks just because it’s wrong. Actually, it’s not even wrong. So make a woman work for your attention, let her buy you a drink instead. Automatically, your value will rise. She will see you as a guy with a higher value, a harder guy to please, a guy she wants more, just because she bought you a drink. Haha – this is fun stuff yes? I’m dead serious! Do not buy her a drink, even if she asks – this is a test! She knows just about any guy can afford a drink anyway – you need to stand up against her.

5. Do not be needy – don’t look for attention.

Being a needy guy could turn a girl off instantly. Showing her that you need her attention will make you seem irrecoverably weak. Do not be tempted to brag about your new job, your money, your car. You do not need to qualify yourself to her – as if you’re not good enough as it is? You need to show her that you’re confident with yourself as you are sitting in front of her. Why would you need her attention? Because you never get attention from girls? This might be the case but you never want her to know, LOL! Why would she want to be with a guy that no one else wants? It is a demonstration of low value, and you never want to demonstrate low value. You want to demonstrate high value.

6. Be awesome!!!

Okay, I didn’t mean awesome as in an 80’s revival… you have to be interesting and you need to be very interesting. Boring guys are, boring. If you do not already have one, get a life. Yeah, I said get a life – take up a new hobby, play an exciting, fun sport. Take up guitar lessons. Talk to more people. Read up on an interesting subject you’ve been wondering about, like magic or hypnosis. Do not be afraid to express yourself. Be awesome. Have an awesome life, why not? You’ll be so many times more attractive being awesome.

7. Take your image seriously.

Take care of yourself; make sure you look as good as you can. You may not be the best looking guy in Cape Town but you can definitely still score points by grooming yourself properly. Have a good sense of personal hygiene – shower every morning, wear a scent that suits you, shave regularly. Have an interesting haircut. Or have really long, neat hair.

Wear clothes that fit your body and spend some time checking out fashion ideas; you can’t avoid it. In this day and age, we form impressions in people’s eyes the moment they see us. If they see a sloppily dressed dude…they’re going to think you’re sloppy. If they see a well groomed, well dressed man, yeah baby! You’re several feet ahead by not really doing anything yet. It never hurts to look good.

8. Get your body language straight!!!

Sloppy, negative body language will get you killed. Really, you need to learn how to present yourself as a person, to the room, to the venue, to the world, wherever you are. You’re most likely always to be in a world – if not, you’re in a sticky situation: try calling for help. You need to come across as a confident man. Walk into the room, club, or world with your head upright, your shoulders back, your hands out of your pockets and do that smile you’ve been practising in the mirror. Do not lean in when talking to women, or any other person for that matter. Lean backwards, you don’t want to display any unnecessary neediness. Let them lean in towards you. Also, do not be afraid to take up space.

9. Be different!

It’s up to you to show her that you’re a unique and valuable catch. You should not be doing the same things every other guy is doing. Be expressive; be passionate about… what you’re passionate about. When you talk to women, bring out the essence of yourself, display the personality that no one on this earth besides you can display. Do not be one of the many mindless sheep she’s been approached by. Do not be afraid to stand out, as yourself!

Finally…

10. You need to take serious action.

If you’re serious about getting better at the dating game, it’s going to require some initiative. There are so many resources out there that are free for you to use! Buy some fashion magazines if you’re unsure of what it means to look good. Go to the library and check out the books on body language (you really should do this actually), and get on talking to women! You really need to take the action yourself as I’m certainly not going to do all these wonderful things for you; it’s up to you to make that decision. Men, who take action, get action. I just made that up, wow.

These 10 tips combined should breathe new life into your relationships with women.

Cheers,

Craig