If you've ever been left frustrated and wondering why it seems men must always pay for dates, then this article is for you. We'll look at why it generally doesn't work, why you need to change the way you look at dates and how to turn the tables and get her paying for you.

First let's look at why paying for dates doesn't work. This is a common scenario. Guy A meets Girl B and invites her to dinner. It's most likely some place he's never been before, but since it's fancy, he thinks she will be suitably impressed and want to be with him romantically.

Sounds like a good idea right?

Wrong. It fails for many reasons, but one of the biggest is that the guy isn't comfortable in that environment whereas the girl is. On one occasion, I met a woman at a salt of the earth type bar. She enjoyed herself immensely and had fun. For some reason, the next place we went to after that was more of a swanky lounge type place and as soon as we walked in the door, her entire demeanor changed. I had entered into her realm.

To recap: fun trumps fancy, so always keep that in mind -- show her a fun time if you want to impress.

Next, let's look at why you need to change the way you look at dates. Pure and simple, a date is simply an opportunity to get to know one another. Before you even ask her out, you should try and find some activity you both like doing and go along to do that together. It could be a bar crawl, it could be an art gallery or it could be a mountain bike ride. That way, asking for the date becomes seamless and you are already on the right track.

To recap: think of a fun activity you both like and invite her to do that.

Finally, let's look at how you turn the tables and get her paying for you. The sad reality for most women is the men they meet are disappointing. They are worried about making a good impression and become lifeless and unemotional. If you want to have women calling you, asking you out and paying your way, then you need to become their #1 source of fun. If every time you're around, she feels joy and happiness, then she will do whatever she can to keep you. And yes, this includes throwing the rules out the window and paying for you. She'll do it without a second thought if you can become that guy.

To recap: become a vibrant fun guy who makes her feel joy and happiness and she will do whatever she can to keep you around.

So there you have it, 3 things you need to know about paying for dates. We've looked at why paying for conventional fates doesn't work, why you need to change the way you think about dates and what you need to do in order to have women paying for you. All that's left is for you to go out and add this to your dating life.