You are still in the shock from the break up. You did not know it was coming. You ignored (or may i say "ignorant") of the signals. And when it came, you just could not accept it. Your emotion went through a roller coaster. You could not eat, could not think, could not believe that she/he has left you! Now, what you have in mind is how do i get back my ex? How do i win my love back? Don't worry, there are ways. And if you follow the ways that I share with you here, you will get back your ex very quickly.

In getting back your ex girlfriend/boyfriend, first thing you must do is free yourself from the "damage" of the break up. You must accept what has happened in the past. Work out a plan. Build a strong foundation for the plan. Be focused on the future. Imagine and always play in your head that you can and will have your ex back with you. Think about this on a daily basis. As the saying goes, once a decision is made, the universe will conspire to make it happen. So, if you have decided to get back your ex and really take action to implement that, everything around you will work together to make it happen.

Take the opportunity to know yourself again. Although you would like to get back your ex is all you wanted to do now, you have to do things one step at a time. Your initial focus must be on yourself only. Do not communicate or contact your ex. Cut all the phone calls, emails, SMSes, Facebook etc. You have to rebuild yourself.

Discipline yourself to focus on "other" things that could make you happy. Surround yourself with positive friends. Explore a new hobby. Do something you have never done before and have fun of it. Smile always. Just do anything (provided it's legal of course) to make yourself happy, just no interaction with your ex for now.

Remember, if you begin to act like many others who beg, call, cry or try whatever it takes to get back your ex, you will only look desperate, needy, childish, unworthy or even cheap to your ex. That would not help you to get back your ex at all. You must take a different approach, act happy, build up your confidence, and create a new you. Once you have managed to do that, try to have a little contact with your ex. But remember, at this stage, you just want to be his/her friend. Nothing more than that.

During the little interaction with your ex, make sure he/she knows how well you are doing after he/she leaves you. These will trigger your ex's curiosity. He/She will wonder what happens to you. What makes you change so tremendously and to a better one. They will even start questioning themselves if they have made the right decision in leaving you! Isn't that what you want? So that you can get back your ex?

Now, go ahead and invent a new you. Take this first step first. Practise it until you become a master in this.