To get back your boyfriend, you must know exactly what to do and what to say. Conversely, you must also know what not to do or say. Do you know most of us would make the mistakes below in trying to get back our boyfriend?

• We try to convince them we are the love of their life

• we promise to change the way he wants us to for good

• we apologize profusely for everything

• we try to get them to see that it wasn't really our fault

• we even beg or threaten them to take us back

And of course, the above do not help at all to get you back your boyfriend. Instead, the more we do the above, the more defensive, angry and distant the boyfriends become.

But, you should not blame yourself in doing all the above because we were not taught in school on how to get back with our ex. What you need to do is learn from the experts.

First of all, you must get yourself out of the pain and depression of the break up before you can try getting back your boyfriend. Make sure you look fantastic, attractive and confident like the old days when you were with your ex. Explore new hobbies, get to know more new friends. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.

You must understand the core reason why men leave women. Contrary to the general belief, it is usually not because of beauty, sex, or for a younger or new face. Men desire just one thing more than any other. Find out what it is and give it to them. Then, you will get back your boyfriend at no time and make them yours forever.

You must know when to apologize and when not to. Remember, a right apology may help you getting back with your boyfriend. A bad one at the wrong time (or even right time), will only make you look needy or desperate and spoil your chances of getting back with your boyfriend.

Learn the fastest and shortest path back into your boyfriends' heart, mind and soul. While food may be one of them, you must find out what are the other factors that could help you get back your boyfriend and these factors may be so counter-intuitive that may never occur to you.

Reconnect and rebond with your ex to get him back into your arms. It is important for you to identify what you should do and say to get back that bonding, connection and trust with your ex. If you cannot reignite that bonding, connection or trust, chances are you will fail to getting back your boyfriend.

Be aware of when you can have sex with your boyfriend after a break up. You may destroy your chances of getting back with your ex because you sleep with him too soon.