This is probably the most common piece of personal development advice you will ever hear, but virtually no one follows it. If we did, we would likely all be wealthy, happy, healthy, and totally satisfied with all our interactions with women.

Where we choose to focus is an internal habit. Most people are not even aware of their internal habits, and when they become aware of them, they tend to be most stubborn about changing these habits.

The good news is that if you master this one habit, not only will you have consistent incredible results with women... you will also tend to do much better in every other area of your life as well!

If you master this habit with women, you will be able to easily pick up girls anytime and anywhere you like.

How do you get started?

You must become aware of your desired outcome in a given situation. This is your solution.

You are likely aware of many challenges you have in approaching, picking up, dating, or sleeping with the women of your dreams. You are aware of this, now direct your awareness to your solution.

Your solution might be to be more calm. It might be to be more honest and sincere. It might be to focus on her more in your conversation (to encourage her to share more without spending so much time on your own soapbox).

Whatever your solution is, just keep it in mind as you interact with the women you find attractive.

If your attention drifts, or you get distracted, this is only natural. Just notice it, and bring your awareness back to your solution.

You might find that a given solution does not work that well for you. This is fine. The practice of continually bringing focus back will transfer over to whatever solution you choose to work with next.

This will give the solution a real chance to prove itself. If calmness was the solution, and you only managed to stay calm for 5 minutes out of a three hour date, then obviously you might want to work on your calmness a little bit more before you rule it out as a solution.

The more you focus on solutions, the more amazing your life will become. If you begin by focusing on solutions with women, you will quickly have a lovely lady, or several, to enjoy that life with.