"I did it! I finally had the courage and saw it through. I never thought I could. It worked! I can’t believe it worked!"

These are the words of a woman I had been talking to about the behaviour of her teenage daughter. Her child had become so difficult that the mother was desperate. I saw the solution quite clearly. It came to me so strongly and firmly, controversially but I knew from the deepest part of me it would work and the two of them could resolve and have a brilliant relationship.

How did I know it was the right thing to say? How did I know it would resolve their difficulties? When your ego works in harmony with you it is easy for you to link with and trust your intuition and psychic perceptions.

When the ego is out of control and too big for its boots, it hinders the natural path of intuition, intuitive instinct and psychic ability. The ego self will deny the presence of intuition and rely heavily on logic, reason and emotional fears rather than embrace higher thinking automatically.

When developing psychic ability, at some point or another, people go through a period of time when an argument erupts between the inner ‘ego’ and ‘higher thinking’. The ego doesn’t like change; it is a creature of habit which is there to protect the physical existence of the human body. It is the part of you that knows stepping out in front of a moving bus means you get squashed. That is its purpose: it is there to remind you to protect the physical. The all-knowing part of you, however, is aware it is eternal and forgets it must look after the vehicle it travels in during this lifetime.

How do you tell the difference between ego and intuition?

Your intuition is relentless and cannot be budged from its position whereas the ego can be talked into and out of anything. An example would be if your intuition told you to pursue a particular career. No human on earth could truly talk you out of that feeling. They may be able to talk you out of following that feeling but never out of recognising that feeling.

It is often difficult to recognise which parts of you operate from the ego self. In this case we will use ‘ego’ to loosely describe fear or fear-based actions. Many of our fears operate without us fully participating or recognising what is taking place.

When we start to develop our psychic skills, it is more difficult for the ego to take control. This is why many people on the psychic path find it increasingly difficult to deny their truth. They find it challenging to: stay in situations or places that no longer suit; tell someone they are being mean rather than ignore it; suddenly change a job that they’ve been meaning to do for the past five years. These are all signs that they are getting a handle on the ego self and its control over them. It starts to operate in the form it was meant to and begins to work in harmony with, rather than against, the deep, never-ending knowledge of your instinctual intuitive self.

Today the woman and her daughter are talking again. Both are equally respectful of the other. It took less than a week to fix. She had previously been trying for months, even years. She did not have to sit down and read her daughter the riot act. She simple followed something scary and out of her everyday mindset.

She stepped outside the ego.