You are probably well aware of the importance of confidence in being able to meet women, get dates, and have those dates get "physical". But what if you aren’t confident interacting with women in a dating/sexual setting?

Well, one thing you can do is "borrow" confidence from some other area of your life in which you are confident. For example, perhaps you are particularly confident in your work, or perhaps a sport, or a hobby. Whatever it is, if there is something you are confident about, with a little practice you can transfer that confidence to dating.

Start by imagining that thing you are confident about. Notice how it feels. Notice how you are holding yourself (your posture). Notice how you are breathing. Notice the expression on your face. Notice the thoughts that are going through your mind. Once you have a good idea of what the state of confidence requires in terms of posture, breathing, facial expression, thoughts, etc., you can re-create confidence by simply using the same posture, facial expression, breathing, etc.. Practice re-creating this confident state while imagining yourself in a dating situation, and practice it in your mind for several different dating situations. The more you practice this transfer of confidence in your mind, the better it works when you do it for real.

If you can’t think of anything you feel really confident about in your life, you can "fake" confidence by finding someone confident to mimic. As an example, the fictitious character "James Bond" is a good role-model for confidence. If you’ve never seen a James Bond movie, rent one. The ones with Sean Connery are probably the best for this purpose, as Connery’s "Bond" was about as smooth and as confident with women as one can get. Despite Connery getting advanced in age, he still is considered by many women of all ages to be a very sexy man. This is the type of guy you want to imitate - not necessarily literally though. I’m not suggesting you wear a tux all the time and say your name in the "Bond…James Bond" format - that’s maybe a bit too cliche’. But you can mimic Bond’s posture, facial expressions, way of moving (slow, smooth, powerful), etc.. Imagine yourself as a highly-trained secret agent that women find irresistible - and don't forget - Bond has a sense of humor and he doesn't take himself too seriously (confidence is great, but arrogance will be a turn-off). Again, practice the posture, breathing, facial expressions, etc. that you would have if you were James Bond and imagine yourself in a dating situation with that air of confidence.

Although pretend or "acted" confidence is not a powerful as the real thing, it is close enough that it will dramatically improve your dating success, and as you experience more success with women, you will naturally become more confident for real. Eventually, you won’t be "acting" anymore - you’ll actually BE confident and "good with women". When that happens, dating becomes a real blast and you'll need to keep in shape to keep up with your sex life. Have fun and enjoy the ride!