When it comes to dating websites in general, and adult dating sites in particular, a lot of guys place a lot of their focus on the picture(s) that accompany a woman’s personal ad. Yes, men tend to be visually stimulated, and so it’s normal to be interested in the pictures. Unfortunately, particularly with adult dating sites, an attention-getting picture is usually NOT a good indicator of a good dating prospect.

If you are looking at a picture of a really hot woman and it looks like the pics were taken by a professional photographer, it may be very impressive and you may be really anxious to try to meet her, but chances are that profile is a COMPLETE waste of time! You see, professional-looking pictures of women who look like they could be models or pornstars are usually used on fake online personal ads being used to market porn site memberships. Chances are, if a woman looks like a model or pornstar in her personal ad picture, it’s because she IS a model or a pornstar! Most of the time, that woman you are so hot for doesn’t exist. Well, she exists (she’s a model or a pornstar!), otherwise ther would be no picture of her, but the personal ad is for someone who does not exist.

Even if by some miracle it just so happens that this gorgeous woman with the professional pictures IS for real (and at least 99 times out of 100 she isn’t!), your chances of actually meeting her are so small that you’re probably wasting your time anyway. Think about it. The official number of men seeking women on adult dating sites is usually about 10 times the number of women seeking men. Given the large number of fake profiles for women seeking men on these sites, the real number is more like 50 men seeking women to every woman seeking men. Now, that’s just general stats. Can you imagine how many men answer ads for women who look like models / pornstars who have nice, professional pictures on their profiles? Those profiles generate hundreds of messages per DAY if the ad is for a woman in a large population center. Have you ever tried to go through that many e-mails? The only people who will even try to read that many e-mails in a day are doing it for MONEY, or else they have absolutely no life (and how many women who look like models and pornstars have that much time on their hands?). Even if you are an expert at writing your messages, your chances of her ever even seeing your message is small, you chance of her reading your message is smaller, your chance of her responding to your message is smaller yet, and your chance of hooking up with her is microscopic!

Rather than wasting a lot of time on the profiles with the really nice pictures, I recommend dedicating your efforts to meeting women with ordinary pictures. It’s fine if you’re picky about looks, but go after the hot women whose pictures were obviously taken with mediocre digital cameras and camera phones. If your primary goal is to get laid, I recommend you not worry about the pictures at all. You may be wondering how you’ll find a woman you’re really interested in without worrying about the pictures. Well, you probably won’t know for sure that you’re really interested in a given woman even if she has pictures.

What you have to realize is that pictures can be very misleading. Some of the pictures you’ll see will not be representative of what the woman looks like NOW. The pictures may have been taken 2 kids, 10 years, and 40 pounds ago. In addition, it’s amazing what camera angle, cropping, and photoshopping can do to change the look of even very recent pictures. On adult dating sites, a lot of the pictures are close-ups of body parts. You can’t tell much about a woman’s overall looks if the only picture you see is a closeup of her breasts or her pubes.

Finally, lot of guys assume that profiles without pictures are a sign that the woman is ugly. That is not necessarily the case. In fact, I have met some very attractive women who did not have pictures on their online personal ads. Some of them told me that they intentionally left off the pictures because when they had done online personal ads in the past and incuded pictures, they had so many messages flood their mailboxes that they couldn’t keep up with them all. Using a profile without a picture kept the volume of messages down to a more manageable level. Now, I’m not saying that a lack of a picture is a sure sign of a gorgeous woman, but the lack of a picture does not mean that the woman is ugly either. Don’t neglect the ads without pictures - they can be some very good prospects.

The bottom line is, although a picture may be worth a thousand words, in the realm of online dating, particularly adult online dating, a picture isn’t really worth much at all.