There are a lot of puzzles involved in the dating game. For many single women, they would like to find men with whom they can form stable relationships. Unfortunately, the men appear to be too elusive for many of us. One of the greatest areas of concern is how and when to use the phone. Is it right for you to call the guy? If so, when is the right time to do it?

Rule of thumb

The general rule as to who is supposed to call between you and the guy, it is him who should take the responsibility. However, this does not mean that you should never call him. When you have his number and it takes too long for him to call, you should take the initiative and do it.

Exceptions

When you have determined that more than enough time has passed without receiving his call, you should call him instead. Use this call to find out how he will react to your call. In case he does not answer and you are directed to his voicemail, you should leave him a short, polite, and sweet message. Remind him of who you are and where you met, and that's about all. If he is interested in you, he will call you back. If he does not call back, then the relationship was really not headed anywhere you would like.

How to handle an established relationship

Once you have gone past the initial stages and both of you are getting comfortable, things won't automatically become clear as to who should call the other. In general, men tend to be lazy when it comes to making calls. In case the man clearly tells you to call him, then it is okay to go ahead and do it. However, you should pace your calls well apart. While you may feel like calling him more than once within one day, this is something you should avoid. If you call too frequently, you risk appearing desperate for attention.

On the other hand, if the guy promised to give you a call, let him keep his promise. The only exception to the rule is when you get his missed call. However, if you call immediately it may give a wrong impression again.

Show your independence

Your guy is more likely to appreciate you when you show your independence. Do not seem to be arranging your whole life around him. This will give him the thrill of chasing you, and he will be calling.