The single man or woman has a lot of specifications that they would want in that person they will be marrying or start dating. The fact is that when we are looking for a person to date and love, there are those things that we want them to have, and in case they don’t, we feel that we were shortchanged in the deal. Look at it this way; you have thoughts of dating a woman who has a round bottom, small bosom and a splendid smile. They could be the kind of specifications that you have in mind every time you start checking out a girl.

One thing leads to another and within no time at all, you start socializing with a girl that you have convince yourself she is not the right one and you are just meeting as friends. You believe you are still a single man. Later on you find yourself with children and in a marriage arrangement. You look at the woman you married and you realize that she is the opposite of the kind of specifications you were looking for. You feel bad yet there is something underlying this. This is the fact that you have to distinguish the societal specifications of the right female figure and outward beauty; the world is full of young women who feed on anything from full meals to junk foods, and their bodies are huge and mostly misshapen, such that, when you find yourself having married someone like that, you begin to think that you were shortchanged by life.

You must be making very grave mistakes in your single livelihood. It is a high time you removed all the specifications of a society on the right spouse, their shape and physical nature, otherwise you will always be disappointing yourself. You must start determining the kind of woman or man you will be marrying through other qualities, such as honestly, responsibility, industry and trust, rather than on things that affect only one sense; sight. You must remember as a single person that physical image can be harmonized and changed through dieting and fitness regimens, but changing the traits of personality that govern a person would be like pushing a wall.

While determining the right one, the single individual must be able to remove his teenage perception of a man or woman from his/her mind. Most persons still have their views on choosing the ideal person being affected by the streamlined, thin and sexy figure of a woman which domineers their mind, and when they have married a fat woman with a figure that cannot be termed as anywhere near sexy, they are dejected and resenting.

The woman might still think of a perfect male figure as being tall, muscular and romantic in nature, but when she has married a pot-bellied man with a figure that suggest nothing athletic, she will in most of her married days think of being short changed by life. As a single man or woman, learn to live a realistic life, as you look for the right qualities that matters, such as honest, trust and love, and not the outward trait that is customized by lust. Be realistic and true to yourself and you will be less disappointed.