One of the biggest obstacles in relationships is communication. Men and women communicate in different ways. Have you ever been talking with your man and suddenly feel as if you are speaking two completely different languages?

"I have feelings for you, but I am just not ready for a commitment."

"You are too good for me. You deserve better."

"I will call you."

You have probably heard at least one of these and you know that behind the words hides the real meaning. You know that what he says is not always what he means.

Saying What They Don't Mean

Since men have a habitual habit of not saying what they mean, you have to find a way to figure it out without going crazy. You can do this by learning more about male communication style and learning how to read body language.

One of the top things to learn about men is that actions do speak louder than words. Men will often say one thing and do another. Pay attention to what he does as this will show you his true feelings.

You likely put more stake in words because that is how women communicate. We usually say what we mean and our actions act as the cover up. You just need to understand that men are the exact opposite. Their words are the cover and their actions are the real deal.

What's Up With the Commitment Fear

One of the biggest communication misunderstandings comes when their is talk of a commitment. It is just plain wrong to believe that all men are afraid of commitment. There are plenty of men in committed relationships. Get this out of your head right now because it is only hurting you.

When your man tells you that he is not ready for a commitment then he really means something else. Maybe he feels like being with you is too much work. Most guys want to be in a relationship that doesn't require constant work to keep things together.

He really wants just what you do. He wants security, emotional attachment, attraction and stability. If he is not getting these things then he may back away. Men just are not as attached to the idea of being in a relationship as women, so they find it easier to say they want out and when he says he is not ready for a commitment, he likely means that he wants out.

The Fatal Mistake

The one mistake you can make that will just ruin all communication with your man is thinking that the way he thinks is just like you. Nothing will burn up your relationship faster than assuming you know what he feels.

Men and women are different and this is something you must accept. You need to figure out what he means when he says something. If you don't know how he feels then ask him. Never assume something if you have no real proof that this is what he really means.

Final Words

When you start to look at the way a man communicates as completely separate from how you communicate then you will find things are much better in your relationships. You have to look beyond the words. If you simply cannot figure it out then ask him. Don't assume anything.

Watch what he does and see if it follows with what he says. If not, then tell him he is confusing you and you just want to get to the real meaning of what he is saying. Keep communication open and your relationship will be much better for it.