I have witnessed this scenario all too many times: there is a sudden break-up and the man moves on rather quickly with his life. It would all be done and over with except the woman holds onto the relationship. She obsesses about how to win her ex boyfriend back. She grovels, pleads, and stalks him online and offline. In the end, she gets what she wants and wins him back, only she has to agree to certain rules which compromise her personality and her own happiness.

The ultimate issue here is how to get your ex-boyfriend back without compromising yourself in the process. To avoid making these missteps in your own life, be aware of the two biggest ways women sacrifice themselves while trying to get their ex boyfriend back.

Groveling and Pleading

When you beg, cry, complain, and make scenes in public places in attempt to get your ex back, you are throwing away a vital part of yourself: your pride! When you allow the intense pain and grief of the severed relationship to take over your senses and reduce yourself to acting like a baby or madwoman without control, you are not likely to win your ex boyfriend back...you are more likely to force him further away!

Showing your desperation is the last thing you want to do when trying to get your ex boyfriend back. It's common after breaking up to feel as if you cannot go forward without him, but he should never know you feel that way! That puts him in a powerful position to ask things of you which are not in your best interest...and it puts you in the mindset of welcoming him back on any terms. This is a direct lead to the second way many women lose themselves in a relationship...

Relationship Concessions

Often, a relationship is revived only when one person agreed to make certain changes regarding their personality or lifestyle. Someone who cherishes hanging out with her friends may promise to stop having girl's night out. Sometimes, a woman may promise to cut out certain friendships that the ex really didn't trust. This kind of sacrifice will typically lead to yet another break up since the woman rightfully resents what she has given up or will eventually realize the flaws in the situation.

Discover how to get your ex boyfriend back while retaining your own dignity and without promising things that will destroy your own happiness, and your relationship has a better chance of actually working long term!