One dilemma with regard to being a woman is getting the man you want without looking desperate and shameless. Some women find it hard to approach a guy, especially if it is the one that they long for because it just seems that there is too much at stake if ever they make a bad impression.

They would rather cross their fingers and pray that the man of their dreams would come their way and ask for their number and ask them out. But sad to say, ladies, in this case, prayers can only do so much. You cannot have the guy of your dreams just by going down your knees and beg to the almighty to give him to you.

In getting the man you want, you need to get moving. You need to be irresistible! You might say that "yeah, sure! Everyone woman wants to be irresistible but how? If it’s easy to be irresistible then every woman would have the guy of their dreams!" or some would say "how can I be irresistible with all these fat hanging around my belly or with thirty-two cup A bra size?" Listen out ladies, you don’t need to have the supermodel body to be irresistible, all you need is the supermodel attitude! If you really think about it, what makes those supermodels eye-catching and breathtaking are the attitude that they project when they walk the runway or pose in the magazines.

To be irresistible you got to have that strong and friendly confidence, not strong and arrogant. How do you do that? Work from the inside. Resolve those issues that bring you down. It’s all in the mind, believe me. Believe that you are beautiful and unique. Believe that those big thighs and flat chests are an asset not a liability, those are the things that make you unique.

Believe that your physical appearance doesn’t define you but your spunky personality! Believe that being genuine and real are the ones that matters most. In other words, physical appearance is not the utmost requirement to be irresistible, it is the character! If you live this by heart, you will have unbreakable self-confidence.

If you have high self- confidence, you will transform into an optimistic person and person that is full of "positivity" is always attractive. If you are optimistic, you will feel that you can do everything because a positive person always finds a way while a negative person finds an excuse.

So, work on the inside and it will manifest outside. Your positive outlook will make your presence exude like a bright light, a sunshine that can light up any gloomy day. If you think that exercising or learning a new skill will boost your confidence more go ahead and do it! Learn to mingle and socialize more.

Smile a lot! Remember that a smile can break any barrier. All I’m saying here falls into one thing. Love yourself- nurture it and take care of it, in other words be natural because this is one thing that men cannot resist- a naturally captivating woman.