Three Easy Steps to Identify Your Road Blocks to Success

Self-ImprovementGoal Setting

  • Author Nicole Bernd
  • Published June 28, 2010
  • Word count 703

Are there things that you want to accomplish but there is an invisible wall in your way? Each time that you try to move towards your goal you run face first into some invisible barrier. If this is true for you you may have some hidden road blocks that you need to uncover before you can accomplish the goal.

 

After dealing with roadblocks of clients and myself I have learned a few steps that can help you find out what is stopping your success in its tracks.

 

Take a Second Look

If feel like you are running into a wall when trying to move towards goals you may need to have another look at your goal. What is it that you are trying to accomplish? Stop and think about your goal, imagine it in your mind as if you had already accomplished it.

 

While you are doing this you need to pay attention to any feelings that arise. You may have an internal conflicting opinion as your block. For example, if you are trying to take steps towards purchasing a new home for your family but deep down you feel attached to your current house and you feel fearful of leaving the current home this could be your block. Since you are concerned about leaving the current home you could be subconsciously sabotaging your own success with procrastination, or by setting impossible standards of a new home for your budget.

 

This type of personal block is very common but sometimes can be hard to unearth since emotions can be tied in that you didn't even know that you had. Taking time out to think about your goal and how you really feel about it is the best way to discover this type of block.

 

It's Not Your Goal

Many people tend to adapt goals based on what others expect. If a mother wants her child to be a ballet dancer and now the little girl in ballet classes as soon as she can walk, it may be hard for that little girl to abandon this goal once she grows up. If she genuinely wants to be a dancer then the goal will be successful, but if the little girl hates dancing and would rather be a teacher the goal will fail and ultimately she will not be as successful as the girl that really wants to be a dancer. She also will not be as happy. If the goal is not yours chances are that it won't lead you to happiness.

 

You need to asses the why of your goal. Why do you want to accomplish this? What will you gain once you have accomplished your goal? Will accomplishing this goal make you happy? Why?

 

Being Selfish

Some of us really want something but deep down we feel that by taking time to accomplish our goal we are being selfish. Then we procrastinate or self-sabotage our own success, often without even knowing it.

 

A great example of this would be a single mother with two kinds working full time. Her goal is to get into shape. Every time that she thinks about working out she feels like taking that time would be selfish because she hasn't gotten to spend enough time with the children.

 

A solution in this specific example would be for the mother to realize that by working out on a consistent basis she will have more energy to give to the children. She will have more energy after work to actually do something with them instead of wanting to cook dinner and go to bed.

 

Sometime we have to be a little selfish to help others. You can not give unless you have something to give. If you give all of yourself and don't ever give anything to yourself you will end up empty.

 

 

While there are many other reasons why you could have barriers these are the most common. If you still feel stuck and can not seem to find a way to get what you want you should consider life coaching. A life coach can help you uncover these barriers as well as provide support and help you attain your goals faster. Learn more about life coaching here.

I am a professional life coach. I offer personal coaching services to anyone who would like to accomplish their goals, or lead a better life. If you would like to know more, or if you would like to try a free 15min session visit: http://www.nlifecoaching.com

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