Unless you're an extremely laid-back individual, you probably could use a good meditation technique. The vast majority of people spend their lives wound tighter than a three-dollar watch. Unfortunately, that type of stress is not only unhealthy physically; it also blocks any creativity; puts stress on relationships and makes your life miserable.

There are several different types of meditation techniques to relax both your mind and your body, and they all involve emptying your mind and thinking about nothing. That's pretty difficult to do. It's much like telling someone not to think of a pink elephant. The first thing that comes into their mind's eye is a pink elephant.

Before you begin any technique, get into comfortable clothing and a comfortable chair that supports your back. Turn down the ring volume on the phone so you have no distractions. If you have children, request they give you 25 minutes of alone time or have a spouse take them to another part of the house.

You need to have a table in front of you. Put a candle in a holder on the table. Make certain that you have a heat and flame resistant plate under the candle. Light the candle and if you'd like, turn out the other lights. That's not necessary but it does remove distractions. There's no need to sit in cross-legged position. Frankly, for most people that is a bit uncomfortable. Sit with your feet flat on the ground, side by side. Lay your hands comfortably in your lap.

Stare into the flame of the candle and only focus on the flame. As you do this, slowly breathe in through your nostrils, hold it a few minutes and exhale through your mouth. Do not think of anything but the flickering light of the candle. Watch it as it dances and moves. Inhale slowly and exhale slowly. Allow your body to relax with each exhaling breath. Feel your body relaxing as you watch the dancing light of the candle.

Since you're simply placing your focus on the candle, not making any judgments as to how it should move, whether you're breathing properly or if you're relaxed enough, you'll find that you'll begin to feel more refreshed. If you wish, you may close your eyes. If you've watched the candle intently enough, you'll be able to see it dancing even with your eyes closed. After ten minutes, you can either continue or end your meditation. This meditation technique is quick to learn and helps you empty your mind and wind down.

Other meditation techniques use deep breathing and focus on each breath. Unfortunately, many of these require that you learn specific breathing techniques and often take a bit of time to conquer. Watching a lighted candle brings immediate focus and its movement helps your mind and body relax. You owe it to your health and those that love you to learn a meditation technique to use each day. You'll find your attitude improves, but also you'll reap healthy benefits.