Your worst fears have come to fruition! You have just uncovered the fact your daughter bullies other girls. The question you are now faced with is how you can stop her unacceptable behavior towards others.

There are several routes you can go down but the very first one is to drop your own feelings of guilt - the ones you have for not recognizing the warning signals before you actually did. The next step, which by far will not be the easiest one for you to take, will be to sit your daughter down and start asking some questions. As a committed bully, she has probably reached the point where she will not be responding to anything you may have to say, never mind be enthusiastic to talk about her actions.

So how do you get through to your daughter and the fact that she bullies other girls? Well, you have to remember to keep the lines of communication consistently open. Be aware that you are unlikely to get very far the first time you raise the subject. You could take advice from the school counsellors about how to get your daughter to share with you what's taking place.

However, it is also important that you consider what your daughter is going through and how she is feeling even if this takes quite some time. It may well be that there are issues she cannot easily express to you. Try to be patient, and don’t abandon reinforcing the love you feel for your daughter, making sure she is aware that you will listen to what she has to say when she is in fact ready to explain.

Your daughter probably wants to talk to you but maybe just doesn’t know how. Give her a little time and when she seems to be ready to talk, take the opportunity and gently broach the subject. Do not judge, simply listen to what she has to say all the while offering her your support. After all, there is nothing she can do which will change the way you feel about her and the fact that she is your daughter.

If these methods all fall by the wayside and your daughter does not open up to you or another family member, its now the time to call on the services of a professional. Make an appointment for a session on a one to one basis. She may find it easier to try to explain her actions to someone not so close to home.

Following the first visit, your daughter may well become depressed, display a temper towards you or just be moody in her attitude. Facing her innermost feelings can be difficult especially for someone who has been carrying out teenage bullying for quite a while. She not only has her own emotions to cope with but also the pressure of being continually lectured in the school setting for being a girl bully.

Furthermore, while the initial reaction to trying to put an end to your daughter bullying other girls is to reprimand her and yell at her for taking part in this unacceptable behavior, it is the last thing she needs at this time. Remember, at this stage it is about what she is going through right now and you can always scrutinize your family’s role in all of this at a later date.

As she continues with her therapy sessions, hopefully the irritation she feels towards others will disintegrate. She will start to deal with the deep-seated issues that she was reluctant to face before. You may notice a change in her manner, her attire, and her communication within the family unit. This is her way of returning to normal. Show her constant love and support in order to help her through this difficult time.

Help yourself at the same time as you are assisting your daughter to stop bullying other girls by not trying to tackle the problem all on your own. Don’t be afraid to employ the services of the professionals for your daughter and maintain open communications with the rest of your family, so they can help you and her to cope.

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