Have you convinced yourself that you are destined to being alone because Mr. Mrs. or Ms. Right does not exist? If so, please take a deep breath. Now, allow yourself to believe the possibility of finding them is very real. The universal law of attraction states that what you focus on expands into reality. So, rather than putting your attention on what is not working, why not focus your thoughts on what you want? You can have satisfying and rewarding relationships that are perfect for you. Yet first, you must be willing to face yourself with honesty, define what you want with clarity, and believe it is possible.

If you are serious about finding a mate, accept that it begins with you. Embrace your own uniqueness. Choose happiness now, and stop waiting for the perfect situation to arrive to make you happy. Every day, write down three things for which you are grateful and three qualities about yourself that you admire. This one exercise can bring about amazing changes in your life. You will feel happier as you focus on your blessings, and begin to appreciate yourself. If you want someone else to love you, then first you must love yourself.

The best partners complement you and support you in becoming your best, not create you.

Next, define with clarity and detail in writing, what is important to you, what you want from a relationship, what you have to offer, and how a relationship will fit in your life. Envision the life you want to live and feel the joyfulness of this life as you experience it in your mind. It is the intensity with which you experience this emotional feeling of happiness, contentment, and acceptance that holds the power in attracting that which you want.

The second step in attracting your perfect mate is to know who they are. Describe with exhaustive precision the qualities, characteristics, and attributes of your ideal mate. Be detailed as you envision your interaction and life with each other the way you want it to be. Every experience offers you opportunities for gaining valuable insight and clarity about what you want and do not want in a relationship or mate. Release the notion of rejection, and realize with gratitude that you have eliminated those who are not matches for you, freeing you to find the right one.

You are now focusing your energy on the positive aspects of yourself, what you want from a relationship, and have clearly defined the important elements of the right mate for you. The last step in attracting them is to believe they are on the way. Review your notes and imagine their presence frequently, trusting in the possibilities. Notice what makes you feel good as you observe others or think about what you want. Feeling good confirms that something is right for you. Also, notice any other feelings that come up for you. Our feelings are accurate gauges for us if we learn to pay attention to them. Be mindful of the wonderful opportunities that are being presented to you, act upon them, savor the lessons along the way, and then welcome your perfect mate into your heart and arms when they arrive.