One of the worst things that can occur for some people is a break up with a love one. Beside from a death in the family are some sort of serious illnesses, sometime a break up can cause depression and deep sadness.

But it doesn't have to be so you don't need to slump into the depression if you give yourself a good shake and wake yourself up you can start up to look at how you can get back your ex.

The first thing you require to do to get your ex back is to change your mind set. You have to look at the break up in a new light about your feel to help you change the way you consider about this break up and consider about this entire circumstance.

Break up can leave a scare that can impact your life in many ways but when you see your relationship and the break up in the right light you can really turn that break up around and make it a benefit for you and your love one.

Stop thinking of yourself as victim weather you consider it was your fault about the mistakes you make or were treated badly by your spouse. It is all an identical victim mentality so let the blaming go weather self blame or otherwise.

Take the pain you feel and use it to fuel your actions to get back your ex. Nothing is better at inspiration one to restore a problem than achieving the effect of not fixing it. You know the pain of break up so take the action not to feel that pain any more.

Turn it upside down and take a good thing that gone wrong. Turn it back around take the lessons of the separation and see what didn't work. Start to look at the things that did work and how might you apply more of those things that did work?

Analyze your relationship because you are a specialist in knowing what did not work. You can become a specialist at knowing what can work. You have to see what it was that push you and your partner apart, and what you require to do to restore it.

Once you have discovered the changes that you have to take action to restore those things that you can from your side. You will need to contact your partner if you don't have contact at a moment. Take it easy and it can be with an email to start the contact.

First you need to find how your ex is doing and be gentle, don't try too hard and don't hustle your partner to come back as that is one step ahead of likely to have the opposite final result,so be gentle just start up by rebuilding trust between you and your partner again.