You never thought that this would happen. You cannot even believe that it’s happening now. Everything is so surreal, so unbelievable. You were caught cheating with undisputable evidences. Now, you have no choice but to come clean.

Coming clean and ‘fessing it all up is probably the hardest "talk" that you have to go through. Therefore, you must do it right and not make a mess in your already messed- up relationship. Therefore, here’s how you tell- all. When you are in this tight position, HONESTY is your greatest gear. When you seem confused, speechless, and do not know where to start or what to say- you can start with being honest.

Believe me, your partner feels betrayed in so many levels that you could not fathom, so do not aggravate it by telling another lie, or covering your lie with another. Being honest is all about telling everything- who you cheated with, why you cheated, how long it lasted, how do you feel about them. You might also want to include how you feel about the person you cheated on, and about the relationship. Expect that this "talk" is going to one unpredictable "talk." You can never tell what’s going to happened next. Some women rage with anger, while some will do the silent treatment, but expect that there will always be tears, lots and lots of tears.

The next step after coming clean is to know what that is you really want. Do you want to continue with the relationship? You can make this decision by reflecting on the reasons why you cheated in the first place. If you think that your current relationship just triggers your bad side, then why pursue it? You owe it to your partner to set her free rather than promise something that you cannot fulfill. However, if you have decided to make the relationship work, then you have to face the consequences that go along with it, and this is what I am going to help you with. How to win back trust of a cheated partner takes lot of time and magnanimous effort. If you have read my article about apology, then you probably know that when you apologize you have to include solutions and preventions in not doing the same mistake in the future. For instance, say something like, "I’m sorry I lied and did this to you, I’m willing to do whatever it takes to work this out. I already scheduled a counseling, signed-up to relazine, give up drinking and be more open about my feelings..." And this is where it gets sticky, because expect that your cheated partner will be on to you like white on rice, yes, you are now officially an ex-convict on parole, but you ask for it. So, when you make these promises be sure that you can keep them.

Being trusted again is a total hard work, aside from honesty; you need a lot of patience and perseverance, too, because it can sometimes take years to bring that trust back again. Every once in a while, you will be grind and scrutinized, and every time you fight and argue, you will hear the same old story again and again and again. Along with honesty, patience and perseverance, you might want to turn on that romantic gene. Yes, romance can do healing wonders in your wounded relationship.

Heed that your patience will be put to the test, but if being trusted is your goal, then just hang on. If you really want to make it up to your partner, you just have to persevere and believe that your love is stronger than all these adversities.