Does it seem to you that your man can't commit? Perhaps you have been together for a while but are struggling to get over that final hurdle. If he won't commit and that's an issue for you, you need to read this right now. Find out what you can do to help him get over his fear and get him to commit to you.

Before you start, take a good look at your man - is he generally mature in his outlook and dealings with you? Often a man will want to get to a place in his life where he can provide for you, before he is prepared to commit. In that case, you can probably discuss it with him. If, however, you're dealing with an immature man, who rarely puts you first, you will struggle to get your needs met in a relationship with him. Rather than swim against the tide, it may be time to let him go. Don't waste your time with a man who is incapable of giving to a relationship.

Secondly, consider what you might be doing to contribute to his reluctance to commit to you. Not all men are commitment phobic so if you've had several short term relationships and not managed to get a man to commit, could you be doing something to put him off? Take a look at yourself and the feelings and emotions you generate in your man. Are these positive or negative? Are you constantly harping on at him or criticising him? Do you appreciate him and what he does for you and do you let him know that? If you are showing a lack of respect or admiration for your man or showing him little affection, then he is highly unlikely to want to commit to a future (i.e. more of the same) with you.

Stop focusing on what is wrong in your relationship and focus on what is right. Relationships are supposed to be fun, mutually supportive places to be. Get back to the good times and enjoyment. Show him what a top quality woman you are by doing your best to make yours a relationship that any man would love to be in.

Of course, if yours is already a quality positive relationship, he may just be taking you for granted. If he knows that you are always going to be there for him, whatever he does, then he can get away with having it all his own way. Perhaps it's time for a change of tack to shake his confidence in your devotion. See him less often and make yourself less available to him. Give him some time to miss you. How about arranging something you don't normally do like a weekend away with the girls? Pull back to see if comes chasing after you. If he doesn't you may already have your answer!

Finally, realise that you can't make someone want the same as you, and it's never wise to pressure a guy into giving you what you want. However, you can increase the chemistry in your relationship and give yourself a great chance of making him want to commit to you.