Nowadays countless marriages are struggling with lots that end up in separation. You might be in this situation and are pondering can this marriage be saved? Getting a divorce is not always the solution when relationships get out of control. There are always a number of things that can be done to stop a marriage from going to hell, stuff that both you and your spouse can put into effect starting immediately.

To start, be aware that a perfect marriage is a myth. So if you are wondering, can this marriage be saved you should probably be thinking, do I want this relationship to be improved. Whenever there are two people together, there will be trouble, and this includes many that can grow out of control to ultimately destroy the relationship. This is natural to us as humans, people are stubborn in nature. For your marriage to work out, you and your partner must figure out how to deal with tough situations and arguments and rise over your troubles. People screw up, including me, including you. Work with your spouse to get through the hard times. So can your marriage be saved? You bet it can!

Your marriage should be a promise, not something that you abandon the moment that it is not working properly. Keep working at it! One thing about your marriage is that it's not going to get better itself, you need to make a conscious decision and move on it right now.

Clear communication is extremely important and without it, your marriage will be in deep trouble. The most important thing that you can do is to be honest with your partner. Almost every argument and problem can be resolved if a line of communication is kept open. You might have the urge to close off when things get out of control. Don't. Learn to control your feelings and talk openly and honestly about your feelings. Just remember that your partner has feelings and opinions like you so you will need to be open to finding a middle ground. Compromise will ensure that you both are happy in the long run without one or the other feeling that one of you always get's their own way. Ask yourself this, is your way always the best way and more importantly, is it even that big of a deal to you? The next time you ask, can this marriage be saved, think about what steps you are taking to save or destroy it.

I have had people come to me telling about how their spouse does not let them make decisions for the family or how she always wants to be with her parents, nonstop arguing and fighting. On occasion I will even speak with women that will tell me about their spouse that smokes too much or doesn't pay enough attention to her. Usually the versions are strikingly similar and normally they say to me, "John what do you think? Can I save my marriage?". My answer is almost always the same. Take action today, change your life! Stop making excuses and get back on the right track.

From time to time you may think that your marriage is not able to be saved, but if you are serious, you need to try everything, absolutely Everything that you can to resolve the problems that are wrecking your marriage. I have witnessed many friends solve some of the worst situations imaginable and I'm confident that you can do it too.