While all seem well-intentioned, these particular books can steer you wrong. Here are some of the worst relationship/dating books I've ever read, and why they made the top (I mean bottom) four.

1. Why Men Won't Commit - Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games by George Weinberg, Ph.D.

This book should be titled, 'How to Give A Man What He Needs In A Relationship So That He Can String You Along Forever."

The author states that men don't want to marry because they are afraid of "losing their masculinity". On that point, we probably agree. However, I believe it is a sad day when marriage is considered a "loss of masculinity". It wasn't so long ago, marriage was THE right of passage from boyhood to manhood. It was with great honor and pride that men took on the responsibility of a wife and heirs. But it was also the only sanctioned way for a man to have sex with a woman. Unfortunately, that is no longer the case.

The author believes women should "maximize the early relationship sparks" by having sex "when it feels right" so that a man will want to commit to you. He also strongly suggests that your man will resent you for "making him wait too long" for sex. Hogwash!!

Ladies, these are ridiculous and threatening insinuendos meant to intimidate women! The author is a self-admitted commitment-phobe who believes men should have unlimited free sex without commitment. Skip this book, unless you are needing further proof that there are many men who have an attitude of smug self-entitlement regarding premarital sex.

2. Make Every Man Want You - How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! by Marie Forleo

No, no, no!! And did I say, NO?! This book is filled with terrible and self-contradictory advice. There are a few obvious good tips, such as "don't be needy and insecure", but the majority of the book, in my opinion, is either psychobabble or downright WRONG!

The first chapter of the book reassures readers that all women are inherently irresistible and perfect just the way we are, if we will simply believe that fact. Then she suggests that we get honest with ourselves, go to the gym, dress sexier and take strip teasing lessons. Ridiculous!

She does not suggest waiting to have sex with a man. She only suggests women be honest with themselves about their reasons for sleeping with a man. She also suggests you disregard any preconceived notions you have about men and give them the benefit of the doubt, otherwise you will never have true love. I believe it's better to have a fundamental understanding of what motivates most men and use that information wisely.

3. He's Just Not That Into You - The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

A funny and well written book. Plus the overall theme is good... if a guy is not calling you and not asking you out, don't make excuses for him! He's just not that into you. Move on and date someone else!

But then the authors go on to say that if a guy is not having sex with you, he's not that into you. I hope what the authors meant to say is, "if a guy is not INTERESTED in having sex with you, he's not that into you." Unfortunately, the authors seem to forgetthe fact that if you've already slept with a guy and he doesn't call you again, it's usually because he's already HAD sex with you and he's moving on to the next easy lay or to find a girl who is marriage material.

Another disturbing insight is located at the end of the book, in the FAQ section. The male author states that he believes marriage is just a "relationship tied to a legal document". In other words, if your husband is not that into you, just move on.

4. If You Want Closure In Your Relationship, Start With Your Legs by Big Boom

I had such high hopes for this book based upon the title, but what a disappointment! It was a poorly written mish-mash of contradictory ramblings. The author calls himself "Boom, the bodyguard for women's hearts". A former pimp, player and hustler who wants to show women his evil past in order to protect them from men like him. But the whole thing reads more like a sick brag book with some feigned remorse.

Like many of the other books, it has some redeeming moments, like one on page 147 when he writes, "it's easier to get money and commitment from a man who you haven't had sex with than to get it from a man who you had sex with." But later he gives women conflicting advice by saying that, "it is through good sex that a man starts to open his heart, allowing him to experience feelings that help him determine if the woman has more substance and staying power."

But the worst thing about the book is it's blunt sexism. Here are a couple of gems:

If a woman has sex with a man after only one date, she should "try not to wake up in the morning looking crazy. It's too early in the morning and in the relationship for him to see you looking a mess."

Regarding child support, he advices women to "stop trying to be greedy" and that God will find a way to take care of her and her children.

Regarding women's footwear, he believes women should not walk around without high heels on in front of a date. He says, "she usually has no idea how bad her butt looks after taking her shoes off. Her butt drops and is not up in the air anymore. Now the man is looking at the woman thinking, 'What happened to the butt.'" Ugh!

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