You are in a relationship with a man who is everything you ever dreamed of. You are totally smitten by him and want him to be with you forever. He too seems to care a lot about you. All this continues peacefully until one day, all of a sudden you find out he is dating another woman.

Then you start probing his past and you realize that he has done this before to other women. Slowly you get to know a side of him, which you had ignored so far. You realize that this can happen again and you start wondering if it is a wise move to continue with him. You still like him but aren't sure if things will turn out the way you would like them to.

In spite of his behavior, you aren't willing to let go of him. You have a firm belief that if you do things hard and right enough… he will be with you for good. Sadly, this is not true. It cannot happen while he is dating another woman. By dating two women at the same time, he is committing himself to none. Under such circumstances, your relationship with him will be stuck at wherever it is at that point.

You are seeking a mature and committed relationship but he seems to be there only for fun. Your best option is just to let him go and have time to sort out things. You also have to reassure yourself that his not belonging to you completely has nothing to do with your attributes per se. It is his emotional instability that is causing the gap between you two.

While he takes time to evaluate himself and to make a decision for good, you should indulge yourself in new and exciting things. Discovering your own strengths and passions can help you in the long run. Make every attempt to keep him out of your mind by getting involved in your own life. You need to discover what you like and dislike. Do things that you didn't have time earlier for because you were too busy making him happy.

All the new things you do will make you a happier, reassured and a totally new person.

This can result in two things:

One, he will take notice of you as a new person and will start appreciating you more. Two, he may not like the new you and will go away further.

In either of the above cases, your life with or without him will be much easier. There will be less pain of loss and you will also have other things to look forward to. This process will be a kind of cleansing for your mind and soul. The end result will be that you will be ready for a great relation, with him or may be someone else.