If you are going through a break up with your girlfriend you are probably feeling hurt and wondering what went wrong. You may have done some things that you know caused the split or alternatively your girlfriend may have treated you badly.

Whatever the cause of the break up the feelings of loss and sadness are very similar to those experienced after a death and it takes time to recover from this.

You may be wondering how to get your ex girlfriend back and this article will give you a few tips to help.

Firstly you need to establish what caused the break up and if it can be fixed. You don't want to get back with your girlfriend only to find that you split up with her again later on.

Your initial answer to this question will probably favor you and put you in a good light. You may be making excuses for anything you may have done to contribute towards the break down of your relationship and feel that you had good reason for doing it.

If you feel angry and blame your ex girlfriend for the break up then trying to get back together with her at this time may not be such a good idea.

You need some space apart to think about the situation and come to terms with the break up. This will help prevent you from making things worse by making bad decisions. Time apart will give you both chance to have a good long think about and approach things calmly.

Communication is very important and the first step you need to take is to talk to your ex before making any decisions. Doing this can open up a lot of topics that you need to discuss. These may include negative things about your relationship as well as positive things.

For example she may feel that you are too possessive, or maybe you spend a lot of time with your mates and you don't do enough together as a couple. She may feel you don't do enough housework, or you may moan about her untidyness. Often opposites attract, however although you may compliment each other, you can also find each other hard to live with.

Take it in turns to talk and allow each other time to air grievances and talk about what you don't like about your relationship and how you feel it could be improved. This will probably involve compromising and meeting on the middle ground. You should also talk about what is good about your relationship and what attracted you to each other in the first place.

Just make sure that whatever your reason is for getting back together you give it a lot of thought and take into consideration not only your feelings but those of your ex as well. Sometimes relationships just don't work out and it's often better to move on.