It is not like the two of you had some kind of knock down drag out fight awhile back and are still living with the fallout. There are times when everything seems normal within your marriage relationship but you and your spouse know that this is not the case. There is a tension between the two of you that threatens to explode to the surface and neither of you knows why.

The breakup of a marriage can take many forms. The two of you can tell yourselves. Each other and anyone who will listen how wonderful things are and the next thing you know you are standing in divorce court.

You married this person and still love them but you feel things are moving in the wrong direction. As bad as things appear to be the fact that you recognize what is going on is a positive indicator.

1. Visit a Marriage Counselor

This is usually a last resort for many couples. They wait until their marriage relationship has disintegrated before they decide to get help. By then it is too late. A good marriage counselor can help you before things get completely out of whack. Periodic visits can not only help you put the pieces back in place but help strengthen the relationship as a whole.

2. Are You Okay?

If your spouse asks you that question then answer it. Do not tell them you are fine when it is obvious you are seething on the inside. If you or your spouse needs to vent than by all means go for it and long as you set some guidelines like no personal attacks on each other.

3. The Magic Touch

If you and your spouse are on bad terms you can make the situation a lot better by reaching out to each other. That means make the physical connection like giving a hug or a kiss. Gently grab their hand and start stroking it. Invade their space with a smile. Anything that reconnects the two of you.

4. Make the World Go Away

For a little while anyway. It can easily crowd in and make any problems the two of you are having worse. So schedule some quality time together and stick to it. Tell yourself that nothing at this moment is more important than being with you spouse.

5. Careful of Family and Friends

They mean well but sometimes when you are having marital issues they are quick to offer advice. The wrong kind which only hardens your position. Therefore if you are having problems be very selective in whom you tell.