If you are reading this then your boyfriend has most likely just left you and you are feeling completely depressed right now. At this point, the first thing that comes to your mind is perhaps to be alone in your room while feeling sorry for yourself. Regardless of how much of a great idea that sounds, it is absolutely the wrong thing to do. Rather, you must convince yourself to fight for your own happiness. If you want to know how to get an ex boyfriend back at your side, then you should continue to read and you may just learn how to do exactly that.

To ‘fight’ for one's man might sound like an invitation to tell him how completely wrong he is and to call him up and get him to take you back. Quite simply, it looks like you must put pressure on him. This would be you fighting him on his choice to break up with you. And it might appear to be the right thing to do.

Your instinct probably is telling you to do all those things now. Tell him he is wrong and that you are what he needs and so forth. You might want to beg him and plead with him. You might try to make him take pity on you by being depressed and unhappy. All of these things is going to do precisely the opposite of what you want them to do. They are going to drive him away and confirm his idea that he has made the right decision. Yes, wanting an ex back can really drive us to do crazy things, but now I'm sure the you are already aware that you must restrain yourself from getting carried away by your feelings.

The very first thing you must do to win your ex back as a woman is BE STRONG! The fight you should fight is with yourself and your urges. You have to go against what you think is the right thing to do and listen to what the people who know what’s best are telling you. If you fight him, things are certain to get even worse. Resist the need to do all the things that you think are right.

Do not keep calling him seeking explanations or pleading him to take you back. Desperation is not an appealing quality in anyone. Neither is depression. So, rather than calling him up, don’t call him up. Let him be. Take some time to yourself and focus on you, enjoy yourself. Do not remain in your room feeling down and unhappy. The worse you feel the more desperate you become and it is a vicious circle. This is the time you might do stupid things like send texts that you can’t take back once sent. Then you instantly regret sending them and you feel even worse.

Stand up and go out with friends. Visit clubs, go on holiday, enjoy yourself! Do anything to keep your mind busy and off what has happened.

So how do you remain optimistic when you feel so terrible? One approach you can use is to focus on the future. Think of how great things will be when you get back together with your boyfriend in the future. Use those optimistic thoughts to fuel your good feelings and raise your spirits.

You have to find activities to occupy your time while all of this is going on. This works on two levels. To begin with, it will take your mind of how bad you feel. Next it will give you back the control of your life.

If you have already made all those mistakes then don’t give up hope! There is still hope left. Simply go back to step 1 and start from there. It may be a little harder but, it's still possible.