If you have just been ‘kicked to the curb’ by your partner, your impulse could possibly get you into a lot of trouble. The feeling of wanting an ex back can be very strong and almost unbearable, this can lead you to do lots of things that may seem like good ideas at the time. However, these ‘good ideas’ often come to be truly bad ideas and more often than not end up making things a whole lot worse than what they were in the beginning.

When emotions are raw we aren’t really can control of what we do. Our vision is clouded and we're not thinking clearly. The things we do in this state are rash and not thought through. It is exactly these things that get thrown back at you. One could be to call your ex and to beg them to take you back. At the time it looks like the correct thing to do. Of course, there are few things less appealing to people than somebody that reeks of frustration. As soon as you do something like that you will have virtually confirmed for your ex that their decision to end their relationship with you was the correct thing to do. When actually , you need to be getting them to doubt that decision.

You do not want to be chasing your ex in an extremely aggressive fashion. Text messaging them every second of the day and asking them why they broke up with you is not advisable. Telling them how much you need them and how much you care about them is not a good idea either. Bear in mind that you are not the only one going through a difficult time. The fact that they broke up with you implies that they must be feeling awful too.

Rather than arguing the decision that your lover has made to end the relationship, simply agree to it. This might sound like quite strange tips. Your thought will tell you to fight your corner and do whatever you can to get them back. In times like this you must do everything in your power to not give into what your initial thoughts are. Tell your ex lover that they are exactly right and you agree with everything they are saying. Although you might not fell this way, it is definitely the best move you can make at this point. Pressing against them will only cause them to push back and you will go into a cycle that will only drive you both further apart.

Should you have already gone past that stage and you've been calling and texting continuously then don’t worry. You haven't ‘blown it’ yet. You can still get your respect back by admitting you had been wrong. Again, by accepting what has happened and by agreeing with them instead of arguing.

You not only want to agree with them, but you may also say that you have been thinking exactly the same thing for a while now. It does not have to be true, but it is the right thing to mention at that time. Be calm! Don’t allow them to see you get excited or upset. Maintain a cool exterior.

After you did that, leave your ex and don't make any attempt to contact him/her again. The purpose of this move is to give your ex a while to calm down and rethink about the relationship while you fix your life after the breakup. Get out from the house and have fun with your friends. Look for fun activities outside rather than stay at your room feeling sorry for yourself. Once your ex realizes that he/she can’t have you back and you seem to be okay without him/her, he/she will begin to question the decision to break up with you.