So here you are! Another relationship has gone down the drain and you can consider yourself officially dumped. Definitely not a good feeling finding yourself having to start over again! You might feel better by thinking that you’re not the first that is going through this pain of rejection that you are currently feeling, and you’re definitely not the last. However as they say, every cloud has a silver lining...Getting over being dumped, if done with a right mindset will do more good to you then bad. There are ways and means that may help you to get on your feet again after a bad break up…So here are a few tips which are not applicable only for the fairer sex, but for both genders.

The first thing you have to do is think ahead and stop living in the past. It’s very easy to start overanalyzing and dissecting every part of your relationship, looking for what might have gone wrong. Do accept the mistakes you made and learn from them, such that you don’t repeat them in the future. Blaming and trying to find out what you could have done differently, maybe better, is not healthy. Accept your past, and move on positively.

Secondly, try to be alone for a while. Allow yourself to heal, reflect and maybe get to know yourself again; think in what direction you want your life to go. Shutting out family and friends who love you is not what I mean. Why not take a holiday, a weekend break or a quiet retreat? What better way to start over and straightening out your priorities? Whatever you decide to do, taking some time out away from the ‘world’ is a good idea to help you get over your past and move on in a healthy way. You are getting over the sick feeling of being dumped from a wrong decision you made in life! So, open your mind to make the right decisions ahead.

One of the worst mistakes you can make after getting dumped is to rebound. DON’T. Your target is to get over your last relationship which has caused you all the pain you are feeling right now. Jumping from one relationship into another with a new person doesn’t work either. This would mean disaster both for you as well as the other party. So as we said before, first take some time off and get to know yourself again. Set out your targets, priorities and wants and make sure you satisfy these, before you get into a relationship.

Who is happy after a break up? Well I guess no one is, however this does not mean there aren’t ways to benefit. Be optimistic in life! If you got dumped, it means you weren’t really meant to be with that person, so better now than later when things might get worse. Getting over being dumped is not an easy task, but it’s doable! So take a can do approach and I can assure you that you will come out of it feeling stronger! Are you going to let a break up defeat you? Let your inner strength shine through and defeat the break up. Focus on yourself; you are something special; you are worth something. You will always have something to offer.