Everyone at some point of time has encountered breakups. A wonderful relationship which you thought would continue for ages until death or even beyond ends abruptly for unknown reasons. This incident makes a void in your life apart the pain and misery you go through to either get back with him or forget him once and for all.

Different people face this grave situation differently. Some take it very cool and don't much bother and move on in life. But some are affected emotionally and mentally and find it really hard to cope with the situation.

Whether it is a man or a woman a breakup is always painful and heart breaking. The most prominent question that lingers in the minds of the people affected is, 'what next' after the break up. There is no external help offered to people who suffer from breakups. Unlike drug addiction or sexual abuse victims who have social groups to help them cope with their memories the breaks up victims have no such guidance or help from external sources. So the greater process of healing has to be done from within ones own self. How is it possible to do it all alone without any help? What can be done to move on and get out of the pain of separation?

Self destruction is what people generally take to when they experience a breakup. They try to fill their lives with over drinking or eating. They just want to take up the blame for the breakup and are filled with guilt. They loose their self esteem and their confidence levels drop which effects their overall performance and productivity. They wear a gloomy look and are always frustrated and depressed. Until late they don't realize what they are doing to themselves.

So what is the solution? It is best to first look at reality and accepts the fact that your sweetheart is now your ex and you need to forget memories about him. Once you make a decision then the biggest question of 'what next' after a breakup is addressed.

After a breakup the choice of moving on or staying in hell with memories haunting your every action lies solely with you. It may be difficult at first but with time you can forget and gradually erase memories of him.