Have you ever wished that you could have lasted a bit longer to allow her to climax 1st? If you have this thinking, you are not alone because about 30-40% of men at certain times in their lives are faced with this occasional embarrassment of "game over" so soon in bed. The 1st step to solve your own case of "coming too quickly" is to identify the myths of premature ejaculation (PE).

(1) PE is an incurable disease

PE is not a disease or illness. Research is ongoing in trying to ascertain the real causes. However it is often considered to be the result of psychological issues, rather than physical ones. The good news is it can be curable without the use of drugs. What you need is patience and discipline because you cannot see immediate results. The way to treat PE includes a natural, time-tested training routine that conditions your body to withstand sexual stimulation and prolong your ejaculation.

(2) If I try to distract myself into non-sexual matters, I can last longer

The best way in managing your ejaculation is to pay closer attention to your body. Try to distract yourself into other things may work for some people but it is not the best solution because it denies you the pleasure of enjoying sex. All you need is some practice to allow you to both experience full sexual pleasure and control ejaculation.

(3) Some men have this in-born capability to control ejaculation while others do not have

No one is born to have some special capability to control ejaculation. They appear to have this is probably due to their early masturbating experiences and sexual experiences with certain partners that allow them to have greater awareness in how they can control their ejaculation. What is needed here is greater knowledge of own sexual responses and how to train your body to cool down slightly when about to reach climax in order to prolong the lovemaking time.

(4) If you "release" a few minutes after entering, you are suffering from premature ejaculation

A lot of people based their definitions of PE based on a certain limit which can range from 30 seconds to 2 minutes after penetration or in some cases even before entering. Whereas others within a period too soon for them to satisfy themselves or their partners believe they have PE problems. As can be seen here this is quite subjective because PE may mean different thing to different people. The question here – is lasting longer always better, last longer for you or for your partner, which part of the lovemaking you want it longer? In fact, spending too long time up to 30 minutes inside her can cause pain to your partner. If your motive is to pleasure her, you only need to last just long enough for her to feel sexually fulfilled. Most women will not care how long you can last once they have their orgasm.

(5) Taking pill is probably the best way to treat PE

There is a recently approved prescription drug called Priligy which works by increasing the serotonin level, a chemical that inhibits ejaculation. This allows men to better control the timing of ejaculation. This drug only relieves the symptom but does not cure it. At best, it provides a temporary quick fix without addressing the underlying psychological causes of PE. Getting into the habit of using drug besides enriching the drug manufacturers and hurting yourself financially also fosters drug dependency on your part. Behavioral methods to treat PE by working on the mental triggers of ejaculation are very effective. They have the benefits of allowing you to have better understanding of your own sexual response and to get you to look deeper into your sexual desires and motivations as well as helping you to tune in to these desire and wish.