Every relationship has its share of disputes, like them or not, and they must be dealt with. One of the things that leads to a divorce are unresolved disputes that a couple has had and not resolved. Like it or not, every couple in a relationship can't agree all the time so it is important that you learn how to come up with a solution to solve disputes.

Discussing a disagreement right after it happens is so much better than waiting until later to try to solve it. It is vital to resolve the issue at hand right then and there before the problem gets any bigger. Even though you can't always avoid a disagreement, by changing the way you talk will make a difference. No one wins when you argue with each other.

More problems are caused during arguments because usually what will happen will be the breakdown of communication between the couple. Whenever you can keep an open mind while talking to each other, it will be the best for each of you. The following tips can help you to continue a discussion without getting into a disagreement.

The first tip is to refrain from being defensive during the discussion. Defensiveness will only cause your spouse to argue more and it may lead to more strains in your marriage. Don't ever bring up past mistakes. Complicated and serious disagreements can become of the bad habit of bringing up past mistakes during an argument.

The key to a good marriage is forgiveness. By learning forgiveness, it is like having a reset button for your marriage. Little actions may seem big because of the past problems they may bring up and, without forgiveness, they can become huge.

Also, do not fall into negative patterns in the way you relate to one another. Some of these negative patterns include emotionally and/or physically hurting your spouse.

Someone may express their hurt by hurting back the spouse as that may be the only way they know. Rather then hurting your partner, you will, without a doubt, hurt your marriage instead. The day will certainly come when your spouse will say "enough is enough" and your marriage will be over for good.

Many things can cause disagreements. But these disagreements can be avoided when certain behaviors are modified. When it appears in a discussion, jealousy can create havoc in a relationship and you must be able to recognize it when it appears and leave it out. Arguments and defensiveness may be caused by your spouse because of jealousy, leading to irrational actions, feelings and thoughts.

Always be a dependable spouse and never break your promises. The way to to cause distrust in a marriage is by breaking promises. By actually doing something you said you would do, you most definitely will not get into an argument. Always replace with a good positive behavior, like support, any of the bad and unhealthy ones you have. Showing support to your spouse tells them that you are willing to stick with them through thick and thin.

Always show your full support to your partner if they seem to have a problem and gladly discuss it with them and try to solve it together. If you you feel that they are wrong about their problem, don't tell them your thoughts right away, even after discussing the problem. Try to show that you understand how they are feeling about the problem.

Give them encouragement that they can solve this problem. By following these simple tips, you can set a good example for your spouse and then the next disagreement they will have a better understanding and respect for each other.