Marriage breakups are the most painful and difficult challenges that any person can go through in his or her lifetime. Trying to manage and handle the Marriage breakup of a relationship is like having to physically hold together the shattered and crushed pieces of a broken marble statue that's been pieced back together without any glue. Even at the best of times, it's truly a balancing act, and a hair - raising one at that.

Ending a long or short term marriage brings about an enormous assortment of emotions and issues that can threaten to overwhelm and ruin a person.

Dealing with a recent divorce can even make you question yourself, your confidence, yourself esteem and make you wonder whether or not you are good enough to be the partner, spouse or wife of anyone ever again. It might make you feel as though you are hopeless, worthless and unwanted as a person too. Nobody ever gets out of a marriage breakup in one piece without having to face the financial loss, emotional roller-coaster, physical stress, legal procedures and lawful ramifications. Even the worlds strongest man could be crushed under the weight of emotion that comes with a devastating breakup. Your mind plays games on you as well, as questions become personal attacks on your character, personality, well-being and psyche - What did I do wrong? How come I didn't see this happening? Why did they cheat on me? wasn't I good enough? Aren't I good looking enough? Was it something I said or didn't say? Was it something I did or didn't do? How could they have done this to me? Why am I not good enough? I thought they loved me? Was I a horrible person? Was it my fault? What could I have done differently to prevent this happening to my marriage? My gosh what would everybody think? Did I cause my marriage to fail? Is it all my fault?

Just for now, Allow yourself to step back, take a deep breath and set these questions aside for the moment. Take control of yourself, and make sure you are self-assured and secure about yourself. If you are unhappy and are experiencing thoughts of severe depression and despair or you are think of hurting yourself or others, it is crucially important that you seek medical assistance immediately. Take timeout for yourself. Think about what you positively want to do with your life now rather than blaming yourself about the marriage breakup. Don't deny or refuse to believe what's already happening, delaying by procrastination won't make things any easier, in fact it may make matters even worse. Make the decision whether you want to save your marriage and talk to your partner. If your partner has expressed his or her feelings, thoughts and desire's of whether to end it or to work through and fix it, that's your signal to act. It will give you a clearer indication as to which direction your relationship is to go, whether it's worth saving or already destined to come to a peaceful end.

Further more, as hard as things get, try not to be consumed by your emotions. Marriage breakups are one of the most disastrous things that can ever happen in any one's life. It affects not only the unfortunate couple but friends and family. They find it hard to get through at first but take heart, many individuals, even couples, come out the other side as stronger, happier, more confident people.

And if your blessed with children, you should protect and safe guard them at all times, especially the younger ones. They are innocent victims in the Marriage breakup. Explaining to them in the simplest of terms possible on what is happening won't confuse or worry them throughout this unfortunate period. Should there be a disagreement over who gets the children, seek legal advice right away and try to keep any issues regarding custody, confidential and behind closed doors. Your children don't need to see or hear you discussing such things until a positive outcome has been made. Also seeking the help of a therapist to advise you about how to talk to your children about your situation is a wise decision.

On many levels, dealing with a breakup of a marriage is devastating. Be sure you slow down and take all the time you need to take care and look after yourself. Don' allow yourself to get spiritually dissipated, physically burn out or mentally exhausted. No matter how distressing it all seems now, it won't be this bad for long. If you need to, take small steps, one day at a time, one hour of each day on your journey back from your Marriage breakup. You'll surely get through it and hopefully be a stronger, better, more confident person for it.