Everywhere she goes, people like to gather around her and all eyes follow her when she enters a room. She is comfortable of her body and appearance and confident with her sexuality. Do you want to be that woman?

You do not necessary have to have that supermodel look. Neither should you allow your beauty to be defined by others except by yourself. A female who feels sexually confident will be able to take responsibility for her own pleasure. She is able to feel relaxed enough to let go of her inhibitions and fully enjoy sex. She is not afraid to let her partner know her needs and desires and is comfortable with initiating sex.

The basic requirement to be a sexually confident female is to love herself and believes she deserves pleasure. Every woman can learn to cultivate her inner vixen. The first step in doing this is a change in attitude. Do not ask whether you are sexy. Instead you think you are. If you want to know how to get started to become a sexually confident woman, the following are some ways or self-training exercises you can try:

(1) Pamper yourself all the time

You should throw away all those clothing to make yourself feel old, fat or not attractive. You should not even wear them at home. You do not need to blindly chase the latest fashion trends when you shop for new clothing. Most important you choose only those clothing that is matching your body as well as helping to project the positive/strong aspects of your body. For example, if you are of the skinny type, it helps if you wear loose-fitting clothes. Dress in colors that compliment your complexion. For example, if you have a fair complexion, you can wear darker color type of clothing as a sort of contrast to make the fairness of your skin stands out. Everyday you dress yourself in ways to make yourself feel good and attractive, not because of someone telling you what you should wear. Get a makeover, including hair, manicure, pedicure, makeup. For maintenance, treat yourself to one of these treats at least twice a month.

(2) Wearing sexy lingerie

You should wear sensual fabrics that make you feel good against your skin. Wearing a pretty matching bra and party, silk boxes or throng set underneath your work clothes or everyday clothing will help you feel sexy and a little naughty. This will put you in the mood for sex and throughout the day will have you looking forward to the moment you finally get to have sex. It will also serve as a lovely surprise as he undresses you.

(3) Block out all those negative sexual messages

Replace them with positive, motivating and inspiring messages. If you have been sexually abused and this unhappy experience causes you to feel ashamed or repressed about sex, you should seek professional therapy. Do not read all those magazines and avoid watching those movies and advertisements that belittle women and make you feel inadequate. Choose the type of people you befriend with. Stay away from those people who like to make negative comments about you and make you feel less beautiful. Dump your boyfriend if he is such a verbally abusive guy. Life is too short and you deserve to have a guy who can accept and love you as what you are.

(4) Adopt a positive attitude towards life

You have to stop comparing yourself to others. Until you stop doing this, it will be very hard for you to feel comfortable about yourself. There is also no need for you to seek approval from others. You have to recognize that everyone is unique in his/her own ways and has different strengths.

Stand in front of the mirror everyday and say some positive things about yourself. Hilda Hutcherson, a sex therapist, suggests saying this: "I am a sexy, sensual woman. I deserve sexual pleasure. I, and I alone, own my sexuality. I know how to bring pleasure to myself and my partner. I love my body."

Get to cherish your body. Walk around your home naked when there is no one around. Each time you walk pass the mirror, you look and appreciate the smooth curves of your body. When you walk, you hold your head high, back straight, shoulders back, chest out and let your hips sway gently from side to side. This will make you feel sexy.

(5) Head to the gym

Exercise can improve your self image. It also releases the feel-good endorphins that lift up your moods so that you are "in the mood" more often. A sexy, toned body will give you the confidence to make love in any position even with the light on.

(6) Create a romantic atmosphere in your room

Put in a little bit of effort playing with the light in your room. Do not spread light all over the room; lights that illuminate the specific points of focus are great for making a room look beautiful. Each space is going to be different, the furniture that is in the space, how it is positioned, the size and angle of the walls, the height of the ceiling. Avoid those glaring overhead fluorescent lights; instead install lights that shine from the side because this can help to highlight the shape of your body.