There are certain things that women wish men could take note before trying to arouse them. Some women want very much to tell their men what they want but they are afraid that their frankness may hurt their guys’ ego. For many men who wonder why their partners are not so enthusiastic about sex, the followings are essentials you need to pay attention if you want to pleasure your woman sexually.

(1) Keep it wet

When you and your girl get very aroused and you feel like sliding your naughty little fingers into her "love canal", always make sure your fingers are not dry. This is because though getting a bit turn on by you, women normally take a slightly longer time to lubricate and your premature action can cause discomfort to her.

(2) Her neck and ears are very sensitive to your stimulation

You need to be careful and not to look too desperate by immediately grabbing her breasts or sliding your fingers under her panties. It is better to tease her and build up the sexual tension first before reaching for her normal erotic hot spots. She enjoys the feeling of being kissed, nuzzled or licked on her neck. Just be gentle to her when you press your lips or tongue against her neck and you will soon hear her moaning right into your ear. The front of her neck is the most sensitive, but the whole region of the neck is equally great.

Ears are also a highly erogenous area and you can drive her crazy with some breathing, nibbling and licking. The trick is not to focus too long on one particular area. Instead, go from mouth to neck to ear to neck to breast, and so on.

(3) No need to thank her for sex or after she gives you oral

This will make her feel like you are treating her as a call girl. You can show your appreciation in any other way you like such as: "You gave an excellent lick" or "I enjoy your licking very much." Instead of going to sleep right away after sex, you cuddle her for a while to make her feel she is not just wanted for sex.

(4) Delay your own orgasm

A woman expects her man to be patient and make an effort to stimulate her enough before he finishes his job. If you have this problem of ejaculating too soon before she gets wet enough, try to sort it out – go to see a medical practitioner, specialist or sex therapist. You can learn to control your ejaculation by practicing the start-and-stop masturbation technique. You stimulate yourself until you feel you are about to let go, you then stop for a few minutes to cool yourself down, before you resume the next round of self-gratification. You practice this patiently until you can do this alternate start and stop action for up to 6 times within each session.

(5) Not too long inside her

A woman only wants her man to let go after she reaches orgasm for the first, second or third time. Beyond that she will start to feel discomfort, as the prolonged friction can cause her to get dry again.

(6) Do not neglect the whole breasts

Most men mistakenly focus on the nipples and neglect the surrounding area. They ignore the fact that the entire breast is an erogenous zone. You can create this sensuous tension and slowly work your way towards the center with your tongue or finger. Circling brings the attention to the nipple, so that when you finally touch it, it will be a great turn-on for her.

(7) It is better to trim your pubic hair

If you enjoy receiving oral sex, it is advisable to get your pubic hair trimmed. If you are too hairy down there, chances that some of your hair can get into her mouth are higher and this is a big deterrent for her in trying to please you orally.

(8) She will do anything if you tailor your approach to her preferences

When you suggest something out of the blue or experiment some extraordinary acts on her before you understand her sexuality, you are more likely to turn her off. Where you touch her, how you touch her and how much pressure you use on touching her – for all these, you have to observe carefully her response before you continue with what you are doing. You can ask her questions like:"Do you want me to touch here a bit longer?" or "Do you like the way I touch you?" Once you show her you are taking into full consideration her needs, the chances are higher you can push her sexual experimentation threshold way beyond both of your imagination.