Cunnilingus, the technical term for performing oral sex on women, can be quite a daunting task for an inexperienced guy. To be an expert on it, you have to be an observant person paying close attention to her body signals (her breathing, her movement, the changes in the color/temperature of her skin, her moaning), willing to experiment, going through trial and error to see what works as well as listen carefully to what she may be telling you. Whatever you do is for your partner in that moment and not based on what you saw in porn, or previous oral sex experiences. If you are looking for the fastest way to get her orgasm, it is through oral sex and not by way of penetration.

Here are the 8 things to take note when you give her oral sex:

(1) Keep yourself clean

You have to wash your hands and cut your nails to reduce the risk of infection on her. Unless she likes the feel of your moustache brushing against her skin, you should shave regularly too.

(2) Coping with her smell

Some guys probably cannot bring themselves to face their partners’ genitals because of the smell down there. This can be due to her diet and other factors affecting her chemical makeup. If you are anxious about this, it will be good to have a shower together before you go down on her.

(3) Get yourself familiarize with her body parts

Female genitals consist of the external genitals (which are the portion that are easier to see and touch) and the internal sexual and reproductive organs (which you may or may not be able to reach). The most visible part of the external genitals is collectively known as the vulva which includes the mons pubis, the outer and inner labia or lips, the clitoral hood and the vaginal opening.

The mons pubis is the area where most of the pubic hair is grown. The outer and inner labia or lips are the 2 "rings" of skin around the opening. The labia will meet at the top of her opening into a little hood that covers the clitoris.

The part of the clitoris which can be seen or felt is actually the tip of the clitoris which extends into the body and down in 2 roots to either side of the vagina. When she is fully aroused, the clitoris will look a bit like an erected male organ.

(4) Proceed slowly

Most women do not like to be rushed because they need some warming up before they can get into the mood. Though this is all about performing oral sex on her, this does not mean going immediately for her clitoris. You start by kissing her lips, ears, neck and slowly move down to her breasts, licking and sucking her nipples to prepare her for the ultimate stimulation. You will next move to the belly, kissing around her navel before brushing your lips against her inner thighs.

(5) Both of you should be physically comfortable

Besides using pillows, you choose an oral sex position that keep both of you comfortable and relaxed allowing you to move around easily. Depending on your preference you can go on your knees to stimulate her with her either standing in front of you, or sitting at the edge of bed or chair.

Or, you can get her knees bend or her legs rest on your shoulders. Another way is to position your head at right angle to her genitals so that you will be licking her side-to-side instead of the usual up-and-down motion when you use other oral sex positions. Other option is to get her adopt a squatting position so that the whole area between her legs will be just above your mouth. At all times it is perfectly alright to adjust and switch positions until you feel comfortable.

(6) Do not neglect other parts of her body

As the clitoris (the biological equivalent of male sexual organ) is a highly sensitive area, you should not spend too much time licking directly on it. You move your tongue to explore the outer and inner labia. You can glide your tongue further down to the perineum (the area between the anus and vaginal opening) before you return to her clitoris.

(7) Try with different kinds of strokes

Most women prefer repetitive motion of the tongue with firm pressure. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris may irritate some women. It is best to ask about her preference whether she likes your tongue to lick in a circular motion or up-and-down or side-to-side.

An alternative good way to gauge her preference is to observe how she masturbates, where she touches, how much pressure she uses on each area and how fast she moves her fingers. You can ask her to place her hand on top of your hand to show you how she likes to be stroked. This should give you plenty of ideas in how you can drive her wild with your tongue and hands.

(8) Maintain a steady space

Do not stop half way. If you are tired, switch to using your hand or a sex toy to stimulate her. Some women may need a little bit extra time to get sexually excited and in this case you just have to be patient and not to make her feel pressurized which can dampen her mood.