Most of the clients who consulted me were asking me for advice on relationships. How to get them, how to sort them out and how to end them.

When the hopeful lover knows you have a partner and still continues to show they want to date you or be with you then not only are they disrespecting the set up you are already in but they are a potential threat to your relationship. It is better then to be quite black and white about how you feel and tell them straight that you are spoken for (even if you are not happy with your partner). If they carry on pestering you or trying it on with you then according to the circumstances either threaten to tell their partner, threaten to tell your partner, threaten to tell the boss, do whatever it takes to get rid. They have shown you no respect so do not deserve any of the diplomatic softly gentle approach. Anyone who would try it on with someone who is spoken for is rather tacky and sleazy and may well have done it with others before you.

Dumping someone you are in a relationship with is a whole new thing. If they have done nothing wrong and it is simply a case of you becoming bored with them or the situation then by all means be fair to them. Make sure you get a chance to sit down in private and talk the whole thing through with them as they deserve respect. It is not their fault if you have become unhappy. But make it clear that you want to finish things. Do not say maybe or but or if or anything else that might lead them to think you are unsure and do not let them talk you out of it. Usually when you tell a partner that you are ending a relationship they are upset and it dents their ego so try to make it clear that it is not their fault, that you think they are a very nice person, but you were too pre occupied with work or other problems or wanted to be on your own and not in a relationship for a bit. If you tell them the reason you are ending the relationship is because of their behaviour they will feel much worse and then try to make promises of changing and nagging you to carry on with them and give them a chance to prove it.

If your partner has treated you very badly and you are scared of their temper or the way they will react then it is better to tell them when you are on the end of a phone or by text or email or when other people are there.

And make sure you have sorted out where to go and all the rest that goes with this BEFORE you tell them.

Never burn your bridges and show you will be ending it if you will then be homeless or have some other major problem.

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