As much as nobody likes them, disagreements are part of every relationship. Many times it is the unresolved disagreements between a couple that can lead to a divorce. Disagreements will happen in the best of marriages, because you can't agree on everything all of the time, and you must learn to solve them as soon as possible.

A disagreement must be resolved as quickly as possible after it happens rather than waiting until later. It is necessary to resolve the issue at hand right then and there before the problem gets any bigger. There is no way that you can avoid every disagreement, but try to change the way you talk during them will sure help. Arguing with one another will do no good.

More problems are caused during arguments because usually what will happen will be the breakdown of communication between the couple. Always having an open mind, when talking to each other, will be the best for the each of you. Try to remember the following simple tips in order to avoid a disagreement and to be able to continue on with a discussion.

Try to refrain from being defensive during a discussion is the first tip. More strains may be caused to your marriage by you being defensive during discussions and may even cause your spouse to argue more. Past mistakes should never be brought up. This bad habit will only turn your smallest disagreements into serious and complicated arguments.

The main factor is forgiveness in a good marriage. Having forgiveness is like having a reset button on your marriage. Huge problems arise from little actions that might drudge up old past baggage.

Don't ever fall into negative patterns in your relationship to each other. The pattern of physically and/or emotionally hurting your spouse are included.

Sometimes the only way that someone can express their hurt is to hurt back. By causing hurt back, without a doubt this will cause damage to your marriage instead of hurting the spouse. You never want the day to come when your spouse says "enough is enough" and you find your marriage at an end.

Disagreements can be had over many things. If you modify certain behaviors, many of these disagreements may be avoided. For instance, leave jealousy out of the relationship and recognize it when it appears. Jealousy can lead to irrational thoughts, feelings and actions leading to arguments and defensiveness in your spouse.

Never be an undependable spouse and always keep your promises. The way to to cause distrust in a marriage is by breaking promises. By actually doing something you said you would do, you most definitely will not get into an argument. Support is a great positive behavior to replace any unhealthy and bad ones you may have. Showing support to your spouse tells them that you are willing to stick with them through thick and thin.

Always be willing to support your partner when it seems they have a problem, and support them by being willing to listen to them about their problem. Don't tell them your thoughts right away, if you feel they are wrong, after they explain their problem to you. Instead, show understanding of how they might be feeling about the problem.

Give them encouragement that they can solve this problem. In this way you can be a good example for your spouse so the next disagreement will contain a better understanding and respect for one another.