The insanely happy wives and husbands unquestionably are hard to find. At times even people that have been together for a long time could be subject to a realignment to get the marriage back on track. Christian marriage counseling can potentially help you do just that - help you not to lose sight of your priorities in life, in this case the partnership between you and your husband or wife. In comparison to secular counseling, Christian couple counseling also use teachings from the bible, so that the bible becomes the guideline to marriage.

The Biblical Guideline of Marriage

Christian counseling can be combined with basic behavioral psychology to improve a marriage. A lot of Christian couple's marriages fail because they misunderstand the guidelines written in the scriptures, particularly that of submission and respect. Way too many have the belief that almost all marriages end because of the 'Jezebel' complex - a woman's rebellion. When reading a passage of the bible, particularly that of Ephesians 5:21-22, the person who reads might think that it refers to the wife's total submission to her husband, although linguistic evidence, not to mention the Christian virtue of mutual respect, really implies that the husband and wife really should be mutually 'adaptive' to each other, acknowledging the other person and also nurturing your partner's desires. Effective Christian counseling should really make room for the partners to really listen to each other.

The Christian Counseling Process

Christian couple counseling will involve that the problem is assessed which generally falls into one of the following three different categories - typical problems such as loss of intimacy and failure to communicate, personal challenges that may arise during marriage like cheating or insecurities as well as the failure to include the spiritual component in married life.

What follows after assessing the problems would be a dialogue on both person's expectations as well as discontentment, particularly the husband and wife's degree of motivation to divorce, how satisfied they are with the level of communication, that could include communicating with eachother in unhealthy ways, their conflict solution perspective, that includes determining the partner's view on fairness and amount of understanding for the other person's thoughts and opinions.

There may also be individual counseling sessions designed for the husband and the wife, to allow open discussions and for the specialist to address obstacles privately, including exploring pasts as a means to understanding the roots and ultimately deal with personality problems and habits.

Christian counseling would integrate not just the Christian concepts of marriage, but the doctrine of forgiveness as well, as which is a huge barrier to repairing a marriage. The therapist along with the husband and wife should additionally pray for spiritual enrichment and guidance. The therapist might also bring about teachings from the bible.

Christian marriage counseling may be your last chance when trying to fix your marriage. You might have confidence in divine ability to intervene; but you know what the scriptures says about asking and receiving, and seeking and finding.