Having a broken heart is more inebriating than drinking any sort of alcoholic beverage. With the aches that come from a break up you’re going to have various ideas about what you should have done differently to make your ex stay with you and what you can do now to make him take you back. You’re likely walking down the wrong path if you have any idea that sounds "good to you" when you’re broken up. There are so many wrong choices you can make when you’re drunk by thoughts of getting your ex boyfriend back. Here are 3 thoughts that can make you lose any chance of winning your love back.

1. Alcohol

You’re already confused enough without alcohol in your system. Perhaps a drink or two will help you relax but the risk of having any alcohol is enough to ruin your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back. Alcohol does two things to you. First, it will give you false courage to make you do something you shouldn’t (like calling your ex late at night). Second, it will cause even more depression because you’ll realize what is happening.

2. Staying Close

Yes, your ultimate goal is to get back with your ex boyfriend, which will likely make your relationship even stronger. However, during the time that you’re separated it is necessary for you to step away from your ex and take some time for yourself. Staying close is bad for both of you because more problems are likely to arise.

3. Being Passive

The root of the word passive is "pass" and that’s exactly what’s going to happen if you aren’t the one that takes initiative in working to getting your ex boyfriend back: he and your life will pass you by. If he broke up with you, he’s already shown his decision about your relationship. You have to show him what you want and show him the work you have done in order to get him back.

So long as you keep yourself away from these three stupid mistakes you’re going to be in a better position when it comes time to convincing your ex boyfriend to take you back. By staying away from these three fatal mistakes, you show your maturity and a new level of responsibility that your ex will admire about you. Your breakup will be hard but it will be harder if you don’t avoid these three things.