When it comes to the art of how to seduce a woman, are you struggling to get the first few words out when you meet a woman? Or, are you one of the people who have no problems at all when it comes to striking up a conversation?

Yeah, we all hate them; but you still want to be one of them, don’t you?

You’re probably left standing in a bar – or where ever you may be at the time – wondering just how the short balding man with at least two stomachs and four chins managed to get the tall leggy blonde, right? Was it all down to the size of his… erm… wallet? Or, did he know what he was doing in the mysterious art of how to seduce a woman?

You may be surprised to hear that it was probably the latter, and then not quite so surprised to find out that if he could do it, so could you. So let’s have a look at some of the key things that you’ll need to know.

How To Seduce A Woman Tip 1: The approach

Yes, this does sound more like an airport landing; but getting the right approach when speaking to a woman is essential; remember, you only have one chance to make a first impression.

Don’t just stagger up to her and ask her if she’d like a drink – it is way too easy for her to say ‘no’ – you need to pick another approach; start by paying her a compliment, nothing over the top, but something she’d appreciate and it would give you a way to continue a conversation. Remember that closed questions (‘yes’ or

‘no’ answers) kill off conversations, you want to get to know her a little better; but you aren’t exchanging life stories.

How To Seduce A Woman Tip 2: Is she ‘out of your league’?

This isn’t going to be all about the way you look, how successful you appear to be, or how intelligent you are; this is as much about your charm as it is anything else. Don’t worry if you think that you have about as much charm as a bad smell in an elevator; there are ways to improve that side of things.

If she is an extremely attractive woman, have a look at the people who have been trying to talk to her, and try to make a mental note of what they’ve been saying. If they’ve struck out, you’ll know to avoid trying to talk to her in that way.

You may notice another odd thing; men will often avoid talking to a woman who they think is ‘out of their league’ , so she may have nobody approaching her at all; this may make things a little easier for you.

How To Seduce A Woman Tip 3: The charm factor

You need to know what women find charming, and here are a few things that you could practice at home:

Pay her compliments, but don’t do it every few minutes, pick something that you think she’d like to be complimented on, and do it in a way that isn’t going to be embarrassing to her, always remember to be sincere; insincerity is obvious, and you’d be better off saying nothing at all, than being insincere.

Look into her eyes when talking to her. That gives you more of a connection and can get you through some conversations that may have been going know where. Remember to keep eye contact, no matter how appealing other parts of her anatomy may be to look at.

How To Seduce A Woman Tip 4: Body language, light conversation, and the power of listening

Often it’s going to be instantly obvious – through body language – if the woman you’re talking to isn’t interested. Her getting up and leaving is one clue; but often it’s far more subtle. Retaining eye contact and playing with her hair are good signs, so you should be looking out for them.

Getting too heavy with the conversation can be a total turn off. This isn’t a job interview, so probing questions aren’t required – speaking of which, keep sex related questions out of the conversation, unless she brings them up – just ask about her interests, favorite movies etc, and actually listen to what she has to say.

So many people are nervous about what they’re going to say next that they don’t listen to the conversation, and that’s a mistake. Not only does it seem like you aren’t really interested, you miss out on so many potential follow-up questions i.e. if her favorite movie includes Hugh Grant then you could ask whether she thinks his British made movies are better than his Hollywood movies.

How To Seduce A Woman Tip 5: It’s not all about you

Some people make the conversation all about themselves; don’t do it. You want this to be about her; the questions, the compliments; stay a bit of a mystery, for the moment, and make it so that she’ll be interested enough to find out more about you the next time.

If you do have to talk about yourself, keep it brief – but don’t leave her thinking that you’re hiding anything – and then move the subject back to her. Once things look as though they’re going well, and a proper ‘date’ is a real possibility, ask for her phone number.

Of course, there are many tips and techniques that you’re going to need to know if this is to be more than a one date event; but at least you now have the beginnings of things you’re going to need to know about how to seduce a woman.