What you need to understand to get back your girlfriend... at this point you've found out what formerly seems like it should be so simple (winning her back) is much more complicated than you probably would predicted!!! You may have easily won her heart over in the beginning; so it's quite natural to assume why couldn't you just do it again? The difference is that the first time you showed interest in your (now ex) girlfriend you were venturing into new relationship territory and she had very little emotional baggage which she blamed on you. The both of you went thru the thrill and excitement of discovering each other's dreams and passions.

You may feel like there's nothing new to talk with her about. Chill! There's always more to discover about each other. If you absolutely want to get her back you are going to have to dig real deep and first discover new things about yourself so you will bring enough to the table to keep her interest if she goes on and lets you back into her life.

You must understand we are all just people and that means we are shaped by the experiences we have. They change us and they shape us. Life would be mundane if you went through it living in "Ground Hog Day" By opening yourself up to becoming a new person (now that you know you need to) you may still be able to get her back.

It's not that she doesn't like the old you. It's that she doesn't like the guy you became when you changed (for the worse) somewhere along the line in your previous relationship. There's a mistake guys make when they really like a girl more than usual and it's a big relationship killer. Even with that said you can't just skip back to being your old self (the guy she fell in love with) because she knows that he was able to change for the worse one time so what's to stop him (the old you that she fell in love with in the first place) from changing into the guy you are now (the guy she fell out of love with)?

If you promise her that you've changed she won't believe you and even if she gives you a chance she will have doubt that you really are that great guy you used to be; and this time for good. So you can't promise her that. You have to show her by proving yourself worthy of another chance. To do that you truly have to move on in your life and accept the breakup was for the best. You must let her go even though it seems counter intuitive.

The guy you were in the beginning would've let her go and not been desperate. After all; that guy didn't need her in the first place. He didn't have her before he met her so he did fine before and would've done fine without her. What you need to realize is that you are that guy; you just had a "bump" in the timeline that put you on another path. Once you get back on the path you were on before you met your ex than you can find yourself and become a better version of yourself.

The guy you were in the beginning would've let her go and not been desperate. After all; that guy didn't need her in the first place.

He didn't have her before he met her so he did fine before and would've done fine without her. What you need to realize is that you are that guy; you just had a "bump" in the timeline that put you on another path.

Once you get back on the path you were on before you met your ex than you can find yourself and become a better version of yourself.